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The Message -- for Catholics of Southwestern Indiana --- On The Record-- I'M THE ONLY ONE Please baby can't you see/My mind's a burnin' helYI got ra- zors a rippin' and strippin'/My heart apart as well/Tonight you told me/That you ache for something new/And some other woman/Is lookin' like something/That might be good for you Learn to let go I By CHARLIE MARTIN CNS COLUMNIST -I REFRAIN Go on and hold her/Till the screaming is gone Go on believe her/When she tells you noth- ing's wrong/But I'm the only one/Who'll walk across the fire for you/I'm the only one/Who'll drown in my desire for you/It's only fear that makes you run/The demons that you're hiding, from/When all your promises are gone/I'm the only one Please baby can't you see'm trying to explain I've been here before/And I'm locking the door And I'm not going back again/Her eyes and arms and skin/Won't make it go away/You'll wake tomorrow/And wrestle the sorrow/That holds you down today REPEAT REFRAIN Written and Sung by Melissa Etheridge Copyright (c) 1993 by MLE Music i Off her CD titled 'Tes I Am Melissa Etheridge" is the singer's second chart hit, "I'm the Only One." The song raises a question: How should you respond when the person you are dating says that he or she longs "for something new?" Sometimes one person in a relationship be- gins to move away from it bit by bit, and the other person can't help noticing this if he or she is observant. Other times the news comes as a total shock. Whatever the circumstances, the response offered in this song is not the only possibility. She believes that she is the only one who can "walk across the fire" for her partner. She warns that her partner will be sorry for giving up on their romance. We can feel with the loss and anger that people experience. It hurts to be rejected. Yet, genuine love places no claim on another. Love's ideal is to support the greatest good in the other person, even if that means dissolving one's own bond with that person. Of course, living such an ideal is quite chal- lenging. To love so completely and freely is a goal that requires lots of spiritual growth and ef- fort. In situations such as the song describes, it can be helpful to dialogue with the one you've a* been dating about his or her expressed need. dialogue should start with a clear as, other is free to choose as he or she decides. However, the one who wants the tionship to continue might ask what it is other seeks in someone new. If the answer is simply a different sexual attraction, however, you will be without this person in your life. Love built ont and downs of attraction in those terms has a chance of long-term survival. However, if the "new" is some quality in t tionship itself-- more time alone, for to negotiate this adaptation. A person who negotiate needs is also a chaficy risk for a lationship. If a consensus can be agreed upon, then tionship is likely to continue. In fact. experience something new in terms derstanding and respect for each other's needs' None of us is the only possible person. When unexpected difficulties arise, from your anger and evaluate things. whether there is much real possibility tionship in the long term, as well as ities exist to face the problems love. (Your comments are always address: Charlie Martin, RR 3, Box port, IN 47635.) At the movies: Current reviews NEW YORK (CNS) -- The following are capsule reviews of movies recently reviewed by the U.S. Catholic Conference Office for Film and Broadcast- ing. "Miracle on 34th Street" (20th Century Fox) Sweetly updated remake of the 1947 holiday classic about the department store Santa (Richard Attenborough) who believes he is actually Santa Claus and ends up in court de- fending his claim, in the process winning over the cyni- cal mom (Elizabeth Perkins) who hired him, and her dubi- ous 5-year-old (Mara Wilson). Director Les Mayfield's gently values-centered but sluggishly paced family movie stresses faith in things unseen, hope for the future and a generous lov- ing spirit that underlies the true meaning of Christmas. The U.S. Catholic Conference classification is A-I m general patronage. The Motion Picture Association of America rating is PG -- parental guidance suggested. "Hoop Dreams" (Fine Line) Engrossing documentary fol- lows two black youths from Chicago's inner city whose hopes of playing professional basketball sustain them through four years of high school, one in a local public school and the other in a sub- urban Catholic school. The New Christmas recording to benefit retired religious Sisters in Song Christmas Spirit was recorded by 60 sis- ters -- including Evansville native, Providence Sister Lisa Stallings and two other mem- bers of the St. Mary-of-the- Woods community, Providence Sisters Kathy Burke and Dawn Tomaszewski. Christmas Spirit offers a di- verse selection of carols, hymns and choral pieces. It is distributed by World Library Publications, (800) 621-5197. Cassette $9.95. CD $12.95. Shipping and handling charges will be added. TAWlL ELECTRONICS, INC. COMPUTERS, NETWORKS, SALES & SERVICES INDUSTRIAL ELECTRONICS PARTS DESIGN, INSTALLATION, TRAINING & REPAIR ON LOCAL & WIDE AREA NETWORKS LANTASTIC - NOVELL UNIX- ZENIX 812-425-1100 2121 NORTH BEDFORD AVENUE EVANSVILLE, IN 47711 SERVING THE TRI-STATE SINCE 1977 ii i i i iii I I self-confidence of each is buf- feted by difficulties and disap- pointments, until graduation brings them athletic scholar- ships to different colleges but the same uncertain future. Filmmakers Steve James, Frederick Marx and Peter Gilbert capture the excitement of high school basketball com- petition while showing some of its pressures on young players aspiring to become professional athletes, though what enriches the film's nearly three-hour length is its intimate portrait of the disadvantaged youths, their families and friends, struggling with the blighted realities of a ghetto environ- ment and their limited oppor- tunities to escape it. Unwed teen parenthood, drug refer- ences and instances of profan- ity and rough language. The U.S. Catholic Conference clas- sification is A-II -- adults and adolescents. The Motion Pic- ture Association of America rating is PG-13 -- parents are Medical Arts Pharmacy 3700 Bellemeade Avenue Phone 477-1532 Donald Gutzweiler City-Wide Delivery I Duncan's Riverside Pharmacy Bob and Norma Duncan Corner Riverside and Governor Evansville 422-9981 i Stratman's Pharmacy City-Wide Delivery 413 Locust Street John and Judy Stratman 425-5293 i strongly cautioned that some material may be inappropriate for children under 13.13. "The Professional" (TriS- tar) Graphically violent tale in which a hit man (Jean Reno) rescues a 12-year-old girl (Na- talie Portman) whose drug- dealing family has been slaughtered by a corrupt fed- eral Drug Enforcement Agency official (Gary Oldman) and agrees to teach her how to kill people for a living. Writer-di- rector Luc Besson assaults the eyes with frequent gory shootouts while pretentiously trying to make a moral hero out of a killer who murders for profit. Excessive grisly vio- lence, brief drug abuse and much rough language. 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