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10 .... The Message -- for Catholics of Southwestern Indiana Entertainment November 11, 1988 i II II II I I On the Record By CHARLIE MARTIN NC News Service Columnist This song teaches an important lesson ai ,nut communicating What's On Your Mind (Pure Energy) Here I am in silence/Looking 'round without a clue/I find myself alone again/All alone with you. I can't see behind your eyes/The things that I don't know/If you hide away from me/How can our love grew. REFRAIN: I want to know What you're thinking There are some things you can't hide I want to know What you're feeling Tell me what's on your mind. I know I could break you down/But what good would it do/I could surely never know/That what you say is true. Here I am in silence/It's a game I have to play/You and I in silence/With nothing else to say. REPEAT REFRAIN TWICE Recorded by Information Society Written by P. Robb and K. Valaquen Copyright (c) 1988 Tommy Boy Music Inc. Recently a reader from Trinity, Texas, en- I I II I I II I II II n couraged me to write about the song "What's on Your Mind?" This release is the first chart hit from a group called Information Society. This song, the reader writes, "really does teach an important lesson about communication. The person in the song talks about how much his relationship is missing because she fails to say what's on her mind." The song describes the couple's problems as a game of silence, Apparently the man in this song wants the woman to share more of her feelings. He realizes that a confrontation would attain little of lasting value for their relationship. He wants her to freely share. It is not unusual for a couple to face com- munication problems. Some issues, conflicts or feelings just look too threatening to discuss. Con- sequently, couples avoid them, hoping that these problems will not continue to affect them. However, avoidance rarely helps. Conflicts or hurtful feelings have a way of intensifying when they are ignored. In trying to break through a wall of silence, ' the first step is to acknowledge the fear that keeps you from talking. Say that there is something you want to discuss, but that you are afraid to begin. r iii ii i iii iiiii iiii If he or she cares about you, your honesty will bring forth a caring response. This alone may dif- fuse the fear. Next, as you begin to address difficult feel- ings, agree to take turns sharing points of view. Each person should promise not to interrupt the other. So often, when another is talking about how he or she feels, we are tempted to interrupt and de- fend ourselves. Resist this temptation and instead focus on listening. When both individuals listen without interrupting, the anger, fear or pain often diminish. Both people are likely to feel a new togetherness as they honestly examine the situation causing the problem. My suggestions are given as ways to help a couple get beyond a silence caused by fear that erects walls of silence. Relationships based on love face problems and gradually find ways to over- come them. Your comments always are welcomed. Please address them to Charlie Martin, R.R. 3, Box 182, Rockport, Ind. 47635. Copyright {c) 1988 by NC News Service iiii I II III i 'Roseanne' generat:00:s r ;al laughs about family life By JUDITH TROJAN USCC Dept. of Communication NEW YORK (NC) -- With a hefty file of one-liners up her sleeve, stand-up comic Ro- seanne Barr is well on her way to sitcom success as a corpulent TV room in "Roseanne," which airs on Tuesday nights, 7:30-8 p.m. CST on ABC (WTVW- Channel 7). So far, there's nothing predictable about the show ex- cept Roseanne's big mouth. The show generates real laughs, something most other retread family life comedies seem to lack. Miss Barr stars as Illinois factory worker-cure-wife and mother Roseanne Parker. Overweight and stressed out by the demands of her three school-age kids (Lisi Gorenson, Sarah Gilbert and Sal Barone) and her equally roly-poly hus- band, Dan (John Goodman), Ro- seanne uses her mouth to con- trol the chaos swirling uncon- trollably around. For example, when her perfectly ambidextrous son moans that his sneaker lace is knotted, she caustically recom- mend.s that he wear loafers. When she accuses lovable but lazy Dan of not helping around the house and he offers to make dinner, she counters, "But honey, you just cooked dinner three years ago!" Roseanne does not speak the King's or Queen's English. She swears and whines (at the same time), is impatient and cocky, dresses like a slob and chews gum. Basically, she's no Donna Reed. But jokes aside, Roseanne is closer than Donna Reed to many American blue-collar mothers who work eight-hour days in mindless jobs (Ro- seanne handles plastics) follow- ed by another eight-hour-plus stint at home. Her sarcastic and often hilarious jokes vent very real frustrations of working- class married women in America today. Roseanne is the Archie Bunker of the '80s. With more focused scripts, some realistic banter in between the one- liners and attention to her ac- ting, Miss Barr may just have herself a refreshing, long- running hit, and working mothers will have a half-hour of recognizable comedy entertain- ment to look forward to on Tuesday nights. 'A Sleep of Prisoners' offered Nov. 19, 20 On the weekend of Nov. 19 and 20, the students of St. Meinrad Seminary will pre- sent their annual fall play, "A Sleep of Prisoners," by Christopher Fry. Perfor- mances are scheduled for 8 p.m. EST on Saturday and 2 p,m. on Sunday in St. Bede Theater on the Seminary campus. The production is under the d/rection of Rev. Gavin Barnes, O.S.B., and Rev. Guerric DeBona, O.S.B., a member of the English facul- ty. Tickets will be available at the door prior to each per- formance. No reservations are needed. Ticket prices are $2/adults, $1.25/students and $1/senior citizens and groups of ten or more. For more information, call (812) 357-6611. Stand-up comic Roseanne Burr stars as a TV mom in "Roseanne," a new series on ABC. John Good- man co-stars as her husband, Dan. -- Photo courtesy of WTVW-Channel 7. Remember For Funeral Planning i Miller & Miller 424-9274 The Reitz Home Museum presents "NUTCRACKER CHRISTMAS FANTASY" :! N0v. 21 thru Dec. 11 EVENING TOURS Fri. 11/25 -:-:i:. . DAY TOURS Thurs. 12/1 GROUP TOURS Thurs., FrL, Sat. and Sun. Thurs. 12/8 Mon., Tues., ahd Wed. 11A.M. to 5 P.M. 7P.M. to 9 P.M. by appointment t ADULTS $3.00 (Closed Thanksgiving Day) CHILDREN $1 00 Chocolate Mice and Gifts For Sale w 224 S.E. FIRST STREET, EVANSVILLE, IN (812) 426-1871 See Evansville Dance Theatre's "'The Nutcracker" ballet Dec. 9 and 10 II I I II