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10 The Message -- for Catholics of Southwestern Indiana November 6, 1987 Entertainment On the Record NC News Service Columnist Is it fight to lie to someone you love? Little Lies If I could turn the pap/In lime then rll rear- rauBe/Jm a day or two/Close my, close my, close my eyes/But I couldn't find a way/So I'll settle for one day/To believe in you/Tell me, tell me, tell me lies. REFRAIN: Tell me lies Tell me sweet lies On no, no, you can't disguise No, you can't disguise Tell me lies Tell me sweet little lies Although I'm not making plans/I hope that you understand/There's a reason why/Close your, close your/Close your eyes. No more broken hearts/We're better off apart/Let's give it a try/Tell me, tell me, tell me lies. REPEAT REFRAIN TWICE Recorded by Fleetwood Mac Written by Christine MoVie and Eddy Quintela Copyright [c) 1987 by Warner Bros. Inc. When is it right to lie to someone you love? Most of us would answer never. For us, conse- quently, Fleetwood Mac's latest hit "Little Lies" makes no sense. The song presents an unusual situation where a person wants to hear lies rather than the truth about a relationship. Obviously, such a romance is in big trouble. While few people will lie directly, individuals at times play games that disguise the truth. Such deceptions often end up hurting a relationship as much as outright lying. Consider the words "! love you." They are meant to convey not only affection but commit- ment. Yet they sometimes are spoken too quickly, before commitment is real. Even worse, the words can be used manipulatively to get something that an individual wants, for example, to encourage a sexual involve- ment. Obviously, using the words this way robs them of their truth. Another deception occurs when people make promises that they cannot keep. They might pro- mise to go steady when what they really want is the freedom to date around. Even if the person is able to keep the promise for a while, going against one's true desire becomes a block to a relationship. If such a situation is approached more honest- ly, in time real love might develop. The song also describes another type of decep- tion -- the failure to accept reality. At times, teen- agers who are going together need to face the truth that they would be helped by a separation. However, fear or insecurity can keep them from making the break. Instead they continue to recyc the pain of their relationship. It is far better to face the truth of a relationship that will not work than to keep going through the pain of living a lie. If you look behind any lie or deception, fear is what will be found. Real love transforms fear and in the process removes any need to lie or deceive. Your comments always are welcomed. Please address thIA to: Chadie Martin, 1218 S. Rother- wood Ave., Evansville, Ind. 47714. Copyright (c) 1987 by NC News Service "Kids Like These" CB iii ill i S movie shows limitations, joys of Down's syndrome By SR. MARY ANN WALSH NC News Service WASHINGTON (NC) -- Novice actor Teddy Polite, an altar boy at his Colorado parish, understood the role he plays in a new made-for-TV movie about a Down's syndrome child airing Nov. 8 on CBS. He was born with Down's syndrome 13 years ago. One of five youths chosen to play a boy named Alex at dif- ferent stages of development, Polite also was deeply affected by the story, said his mother, Nora Polite. At one point in the movie, "Kids Like These," which airs 8-10 p.m., Alex glances into the mirror, sees that he looks dif- ferent, and asks his mother to go to the skin store to get him a new face. Young Polite "knew what the script meant," said Mrs. Polite in a telephone interview with National Catholic News Ser- vice. Mrs. Polite recalled that when her son was 7, after his first day in a regular school, he told his mother, "I have funny eyes." When she denied the ob- vious -- one characteristic of Down's syndrome is slanted eyes -- he answered with a plaintive "No, Morn." "You know he's aware," she said. "You can't just brush him away." Polite was selected from about 400 Down's syndrome youths who auditioned for a part. For the film, which was shot last June, Polite and his parents went to Atlanta. His father, Salvatore Polite, is prin- cipal of Sacred Heart of Jesus School in Boulder, Colo. He spent two weeks on the set, and for his work he now has $4,000 in the bank, "for college -- to study music," he said. The movie stars Tyne Daly -- "She brought me into her air- conditioned dressing room when it was hot," said Polite -- as a mother learning to deal with her son's limitations. Polite, as pre-adolescent Alex, appears in the final 40 minutes of the movie. Also starring are actors Richard Crenna and Martin Balsam. Polito's favorite scene was "the one with Big Bird," he said by telephone. In it he argues with Miss Daly, who tells him he can't take his favorite stuffed animal to school because other children will make fun of him. His mother recalled that mak- ing the movie made Polite realize that the birth of a Down's syndrome child is not joyful'. ".Why was that Morn so sad when he was born in the movie?" Polite inquired one night during the shooting, Mrs. Polite recalled. "Because people didn't know he could do that much," she answered. "That's your job, to show that Down's syndrome people can do a lot." Later, his mother continued, Polite got out the family album and found a snapshot of himself with his sister Pam, one of his seven older siblings. "Pammy's holding me and she's smiling," he told his mother. "She was happy when I was born." Mrs. Polite told him that peo- ple at first feel bad when a Down's syndrome child is born but assured him, "We all were happy when we knew you." Down's syndrome affects Polite "physically and cognitively," Mrs. Polite said. He is 13, but he looks 11. A 13-year-old should be able to read at the junior high school level. Polito's reading level is third grade. His limitations do not keep him from many ordinary ac- tivities of someone his age. He plays the bass drum in the school band. And besides being an altar boy at St. Joan of Arc Parish in Arvada, Cole,., he also attends religious education classes. At the kiss of peace -- "My favorite part of the Mass," he said -- other servers stay at the altar, but Polite bounds from the sanctuary to greet people. When he rings the bells at the consecration, Mrs. Polite said, he looks up to the older server with an "I-told-you-I-could-do- it look." Mrs. Polite recalled Sunday Mass the week after his first Communion. 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