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Novem00, ,,1,88 11 / (, " View Point The Message -- for Catholics of Southwestern Indiana By FATHER JOSEPH L. ZILIAK Associate Publisher Remembering the dead and praying we will be together Where will you be on judgement day? It seems to me that those words, or similar ones used to be on road signs sponsored by Camp Reveal just north of Evansville on Hwy 41. The thoughts came to me again fairly strongly as I joined a group of our parishioners at the parish cemetery along Hwy. 261 in Newburgh this past Sunday. The gathering was occasioned by the an- nual celebration of All Saints and All Souls days and the special prayer service held at cemeteries by Catholics. By the way, our tradition of praying for and with the faithful departed is not shared by many in our Christian churches. I feel our theological and Scriptural roots are strong in this regard. Besides the importance of the theological perspective, we need to value our remembrance of the dead as a psychological plus. We speak more openly and more knowledgeably these days of the grieving process. Grieving refers to the way we deal with losses or separations. In specific, we refer most often to the loss of loved ones in death. Wisely enough, though, we are associating the process of loss and grieving to many other human situations, and not exclusively to death. tit But we do know that the reality of the death of a loved one creates a huge void. We might be angry that they have left us. We might be angry that a God who is merciful and loving could allow such pain and suffering to be inflicted on us. We might find life very lonesome and uninteresting without the loved one. We might find that we are not excited about anything any more. We might find that thinking about the future is either pain- ful, or seemingly without purpose or merit. We might find ourselves including the person in virtually all our conversations. We might find ourselves emotionally reacting to the name, a pic- ture or a remembered event. We might find the holidays and special days almost more depressing than we can bear. We might find that we cannot clean the house or dispose of any of th loved ones personal effects. Several or all of these symptoms might match our own experience. We have to work our way through these stages or experiences, or else we will find ourselves paralyzed in our self pity and self interests. How do we do this? Time is one of the great healers. Often it is on- ly the passage of time that forces us to a moment [|Ill POISI|C LENDER HADI SHRINE CIRCUS STARTS THANKSGIVING DAY of acceptance of the absence and permanence of the situation. Unless we arrive at the point of peaceful acceptance, we have not yet completed the grieving process. Prayer is one powerful help in the process of acceptance. Somehow the contact with God, and the belief that the person is peacefully with God, are great aids in the process. That's what brings us back to the group gathered in prayer at the cemetery. There is a huge pin oak tree that surely has seen all the All Saints days since the parish was formed in 1862. The carefully mowed lawn, the carefully placed headstones all in a row, are several of the elements that speak of the continuity of love and care that life begets. Within that context we are able individually to withdraw within ourselves to a peaceful contact with God and a beautiful remembrance" of loved ones who await our completed journey. It is, then indeed, a wholesome thought to remember the dead, and remember the living in their oneness and love for we pray that we will all be together some day in the kingdom of the Lord. SMART SANTA SAVERS Every year it's the same old story. Here it is time to start Christmas shopping and there's nevernough money. 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Newly elected for three year terms were Andrew Goebel, Ronald Hollander and James Will Jr. Elected for one year terms in office were Charles Reising, president; Fred Brubaker, vice president; Cathy Drake, secretary; Fred Creech, treasurer, and Beulah Evans, assistant secretary/treasurer. Bishop Francis R. Shea told board members they should feel good about their efforts. He said there was no way to estimate the importance of a good, solid foundation afforded students through funds provided by the foundation. ,BE COUNTED wYrE00 !i ,i