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10 The Message -- for Catholics of Southwestern Indiana Entertainment November 4, 1988 On the Record By CHARLIE ' MARTIN NC News Service Columnist Hit says "it would take a strong man to let go o f his romance" It Would Take a Strong, Strong Man My heart starts breaking/When I start think- ing/Of making a plan to let you go/I keep think- ing, maybe tomorrow/I'm going to let you know/But when I think about leaving/I think about losing/The only love I ever knew/Every time I think of you. REFRAIN: My heart starts aching My hands keep shaking And you know, you know, you know It would take a strong, strong man to ever let you go. My heart's been hurting/When I see you flirt- ing/Every night out on the floor/I keep thinking, maybe tomorrow/You'll grow to love me more/But whenever we are together/I could leave you never/Even though you treat me cruel/Every time I look at you. REPEAT REFRAIN I tried to resist you/When you're gone all I/Ever do is miss you/Anyone in love would know/Anyone with half a heart/Would never let you go/But when I think about leaving/I think about losing/The only girl I ever loved/Can't you tell me why do you hurt me/I guess some people never see/Especially a fool like me. REPEAT REFRAIN Recorded by Rick Astley Written by Stock, Aitken, Waterman Copyright (c) 1988, BMG Music Rick Astley's latest hit says that "it would take a strong, strong man" to let go of his romance. The singer seems to be in a difficult spot. He is not happy in the relationship, but "when you're gone, all I ever do is miss you." How does one get out of such a confusing dilemma? Perhaps the first thing to do is take a break from the situation. Give yourself some emotional space to sort through your feelings and figure out what they mean. During this time off, be willing to ask yourself some difficult questions. Referring back to the problems mentioned in the song, the person needs to ask himself: What really is this hurt that I feel "when I see you flirt- ing every night on the floor?" Is he jealous because he doesn't have her total attention? If so perhaps he needs to face his im- maturity. Love does not mean possessing all of another's interest and attention. Or is something else going on? Does his part- ner's flirting show a lack of caring and respect for his feelings? If this is the case, how healthy can it be to accept another's emotionally cruel behavior? During this time off to examine your feelings, it can help to stop seeing the other person tem- porarily. Also, agree on some basic rules for this time. Determine if there will be any kind Of contact at all, for example, phone calls. Agree upon the length of the separation. Usually two to four weeks should give you enough time to learn more about what your feelings mean. It also is helpful to share your feelings and questions with a trusted adult. Often we need someone to challenge us to be honest. Receiving some objective feedback can help us see where the real problems are. The song is right, partially. It does take a strong, strong man (or woman) to really search for the truth of one's feelings. Don't go on in a dating relationship that you are not comfortable with. Call a timeout and decide what is best for your future. Your comments are welcome alway and may be used in future columns. Please address them to Charlie Martin, 1218 S. Rotherwood Ave., Evansville, Ind. 47714. Copyright (c) 1988 by NC News Service Film reviews: rules of thumb to help parents By RICHARD H. HIRSCH and JUDITH TROJAN USCC Dept. of Communication NEW YORK (NC) -- The con- troversy surrounding "The Last Temptation of Christ" makes a study of the U.S. Catholic Con- ference's film review and classification system timely. The USCC system is set up to help parents determine what films they deem suitable for their children. Primarily an in- formational tool, each review gives a description of a film's overall content and an analysis of it technical and entertain- ment value. The primary concern, however, is to address the moral and ethical issues raised in each film. These include assessing Sexually explicit and- or violence-laden visuals, the degree of profanity, and whether a film affirms, challenges or rejects Judeo- Christian values. Basically, the USCC ratings are negative rules of thumb. -- An A-I film is deemed morally unobjectionable for general patronage. "The New Adventures of Pippi Longstock- ing," a recent A-I release, con- tains no questionable language or visuals and its values are clearly suitable for audiences of children. -- An A-II film (adults and adolescents) contains material adolescents can be expected to handle with minimal parental supervision. The fantasy, "Big," starring Tom Hanks as a 13-year-old in a 30-year-old body, is a current problematic example of an A-II film. Although there are direct in- timations that Hanks' character Josh becomes sexually involved with an adult female character, his sexuality is neither the theme of the film nor does the film condone extramarital sex. The crux of this sensitive film deals with a boy just entering puberty who gets his wish to be "big." Despite his man-size, Josh maintains his untarnished nature and is continually and positively rewarded for "it. He wins a job promotion from a previously cynical boss and at- tracts and restores a heavy- smoking, driven female ex- ecutive into a lovely woman who (through Josh's example) regains her pre-executive good sense and human priorities. Their initial relationship is based on friendship, and even when they do consummate their relationship (this is im- plied only, no graphic sex is shown), sex is not the basis for their bond. In the end, Josh chooses to return to his family where he knows he belongs. This choice underscores the film's con- tinual confirmation of home and family. Rlthough the USCC cannot condone the film's in- clusion of a single incident of strong language, the language is not used in a flip, sarcastic or gratuitous way. Other profanity is so minimal as to be inconse- quential compared to that in other PG-rated films being released today. -- A-III films contain adult material, e.g., language, violence, sexual situations, which, while not a direct challenge to our values, require a mature sense of judgment to evaluate. Although the Motion Picture Association of America rated "Big Business" PG (parental guidance suggested), the USCC felt that this film war- ranted an A-III for several reasons. "Big Business" parlays the themes of greed, lack of conscience, insensitivity to children, overt sexual seduc- tion and sexual banter as areas to milk for comic purposes. Jokes and bits of business of a farcical nature revolve around ,t.n touchy areas as the seduc- of a potential male lusiness associate, buying con- doms for an illicit liaison, a woman's menstrual cycle, as well as the implied gay rela- tionship between Bette Midler's two male employees. This is adult farce; thus the A-III rating was imposed on the film. -- An A-IV film (adults, with reservations) normally contains serious social commentary. Such a film deals with explicit subject matter which, although it is socially responsible in con- cept and values, requires some analysis and explanation as a protection to the uninformed against misinterpretation and false conclusions. "Nuts" and "Good Morning Vietnam" both received A-IV ratings. -- And finally, an O-rated (morally offensive) film con- tains material that clearly challenges one or another of the teachings of the church. "The Last Temptation of Christ" is such a film because its deeply flawed treatment of the human nature of Jesus Christ is set in a context of excessive graphic violence, gore and brutality, as well as a preoccupation with sexual rather than spiritual love. Its moral failure stems from its artistic inadequacies Buehlers I.G.A. "The Thrifty Housewife's Source of Savings" QUALITY FOODS, MEATS HUNTINGBURG Compliments Nass & Son Inc. FUNERAL HOME Huntingburg, Ind. rather than an anti-religious ly on what the MPAA staff bias. believe American parents are Unlike the MPAA ratings, the USCC classifications do not carry specific age restrictions. Aside from O-rated films, which are by definition un- worthy of patronage by any age group, we believe that with the information furnished in the reviews and ratings, a responsi- ble parent; who with the maturity level of his or her child in mind, should be able to make a suitable decision. In the best of all possible worlds, the USCC would prefer to review and not classify mo- tion lictures. Any rating or classification system is of its very nature limiting and restric- tive. While a review allows for discussion of the issues and subject matter at hand, a classification is one- dimensional. At the same time, it is a fact that many parents do not have the time to read reviews. The ratings, however, are easily accessed and provide a handy rule of thumb for busy parents. The USCC classifications dif- fer in significant respects from the MPAA rating system. The criteria used by the MPAA are essentially limited to visuals and language and turn primari- prepared to "accept." The MPAA does not concern itself with the values being promoted in a film; whereas the USCC system is based on the principle that films need to be taken seriously precisely because they communicate values and influence the young, par- ticulary in their choice of lifestyles and values. Ultimate- ly, the language and visuals contained in a motion picture are less important than. what these language and visuals are being employed to convey. The USCC staff and field con- sultants who are involved in the review and rating process have extensive knowledge and ex- perience in analyzing film as a legitimate art form and as a communicator of the Judeo- Christian values represented by the church. While the judgments being offered through the USCC film review and classification service are not absolutes, they are carefully reasoned and deserve serious consideration by responsible parents. Hirsch is the USCC secretary for communication. Ms. Trojan is on the staff of the USCC Department of Communication. P., i | Please patronize Message advertisers! [