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I b The Message -- for Catholics of Southwestern Indiana October 231 1987 Caregivers of elderly learn they are not alone By MARY ANN HUGHES Message Staff Writer Learning they are not alone is often the biggest surprise for people who are taking care of elderly parents or relatives, ac- cording to Elizabeth Kalb, clinical psychologist at St. Mary's Medical Center, Evansville. She is leading a six-week educational support group for adults with aging parents or relatives. The program is being offered by St. Mary's and the Southwestern Indiana Mental Health Center. During the six-week sessions, participants discuss the "sadness, anger -- and joy" they .experience as they deal with aging parents or relatives, Kalb said, "and they realize they are not alone in this." The program, entitled "Our Aging Parents" focuses on the physical and psychological pro- cesses of aging, communication and problem-solving skills, family relationship, personal and community resources and the feelings and concerns of the caregivers. Participants discuss the changes in health and the "decline in the senses" that often occurs with the elderly, Kalb said. They also discuss the "myths" about the elderly, specifically the myth that senility comes hand-in-hand with aging. "That is not necessarily a normal process of aging," Kalb said. Catholic Ch00Lriti,00s receives requests for information 00ff00out immigration law By MARY ANN HUGHES Message Staff Writer Nearly 15 people have re- quested information about the new U.S. immigration law from the Evansville Catholic Charities agency, according to Martha Halterman, social worker at the agency. The new law allows illegal aliens who have resided in the United States before Jan. 1, 1982, to apply for legal status. The law, which is in effect for one year, took effect May 1987. Halterman said of the people who requested information from Catholic Charities, only two may qualify for U.S. residency. The other inquiries came from people who had come to the United States on student or visitor visas and stayed illegal- ly, or people who married U.S. citizens and then divorced. The agency also heard from illegal aliens who had entered the country after Jan. 1, 1982. Halterman noted that "na- tionwide, not a lot of people are coming out," adding the Evansville office case load "has not been overwhelming." People who believe they will qualify for U.S. citizenship under the new law need to sub- mit proof of identy and present proof of residence. They also must be able to document that they have been in the United States since 1982. Proof may be school records, hospital bills, money order receipts or utility receipts. The U.S. Immigration and Naturalization Service fees for applying for U.S. citizenship have been set at $185 for a single person and a maximum of $420 for a family. Wall Street No panic at church By TRACY EARLY NC News Service NEW YORK (NC) -- A pastor in the Wall Street area said he was looking for signs of distress in his parishioners after the historic Oct. 19 plunge in the stock market but he did not see them. "The only thing is that peo- ple came in earlier today," said Msgr. Edward J. Mitty, pastor of Our Lady of Victory Church on Oct. 20. "The men and women who customarily come to Mass here came in today as usual, but they came earlier," he said. "Paperwork is the big thing," he said, explaining their rush to their offices. On the preceding Friday, Oct. 16, a record high of 338 million shares of stock were traded on Wall Street, and then on Monday, Oct. 19, that almost doubled as the trading frenzy went to more than 600 million shares, with an all-time record drop in the Dew Jones industrial average of 508 points to 1738.74. St. Joseph, Bramble Father Albertus Lutterbach, pastor at St. Joseph Church, Bram- ble, is shown standing by a foldable wall in the new confes- sional/cry room/CCD room. Msgr. Mitty said that priests of Our Lady of Victory, which has many commuters from out of the city attending daily Mass there, were watching for signs of personal distress among the people they serve and expected that they might get more re- quests than usual for counsel- ing. But he said that did not happen. Another parish, Our Lady of the Rosary, is on the edge of the Wall Street area and serves many people who work there, though as the St. Elizabeth Ann Seton Shrine it does not func- tion as a normal parish. The Only Bank With Person to Personal Banking . i There are also issues of "loss care of you and who shares the and change" facing the elderly, burden?'" Often, the caregivers Kalb said. "Families need to are not aware of the number of stop and think about those demands on them or of the sup- issues," specifically how the port system available to them. loss of friends and spouse and They also need to assess the the change of residence affects future needs of the elderly the elderly, relative, both financially and Often, an elderly person will legally, and they need to alloy" move from a home they have time for themselves. lived in for 50 years, "cared for Part of the program is and dusted every day" to living devoted to teaching the in someone else's home, with caregivers how to listen- "to only a bedroom they can call hear what they have to say and their own, Kalb said. Families learn how to respond to the need to be aware of these elderly relative." changes and how they affect the K a 1 b e x p 1 a i n e d t h a t person, caregivers often must simplify Participants also focus on what they say, often because of family relationships during the cognitive or hearing problems. six-week program. "We talk "They must also learn to pick about the changes in the rela- up what the body signals ? tionship. Often there will be a saying." role reversal with the child now "They must listen with the taking care of the parent." third ear." Women often are the main Kalb noted, for example, caregivers for elderly parents, when someone who is in a nurs- Kalb said. "They are called the ing home says, "I want to go 'sandwich generation' -- they home," they are really saying, are often taking care of their "I'm scared, I'm lonely." She mother and dad and their own added, "What they really want children and they are working you to do is hold them and say, outside the home as well. And 'It will be ok.'" it's hard." Caregivers must learn to use "touch, feeling and expres- PART OF THE program sion" instead of verbal devotes time to making par- responses. ticipants aware of the number Kalb noted the biggest of responsibilities they have -- suprise for participants often is including financial, emotional the feeling "we are not alone in and physical. "We see this." caregivers are under a lot of "They learn that others are in stress and they are not aware of the same situtation. There is why. something comforting about "We ask them 'who takes that." 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