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View Point The Message -- for Catholics of Southwestern Indiana I I September 8, 1989 By FATHER JOSEPH L. ZILIAK Associate Publisher Twelve suggestions for letting go and letting God There was a time not too many years ago when the term support group was associated somewhat with weakness and a lack of ability to hand]e situa- tions on one&apos;s own inner strength. Not anymore. We are learning and experiencing more and more clearly that we need others as we journey through life. Bill Wilson and Dr. Bob Smith, co-founders of Alcoholics Anonymous, formulated a 12-step method to recovery. The method is self-help strengthened by group help. For the record, we repeat the 12 principles or steps that have been so instrumental in helping recovering alcoholics. These same principles are valid in dealing with other addictions, whether that be drug, chemical or such addictions as overeating. We are indebted for a good portion of this material to "Christopher News Notes." 1. We admitted we were powerless over the problem, that our lives had become unmanageable. Myth -- I am a hopeless case. Fact -- I am a child of God. There is no such thing as a hopeless case. 2. We came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. Myth -- I am too weak to control my addiction. Fact -- A higher power exists to supply for my weakness. My addiction can be brought under control by seeking help from God. 3. We made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God. Myth -- I should be able to solve my own problems. Fact -- Even the strongest will is no match for some addictions. Unless I reach out for help, and accept it, I will make little headway. If I always do what I've always done, I always get what I always got. 4. We made searching a fearless moral inven- tory of ourselves. Myth -- Looking back on past mistakes only makes me ashamed and discouraged. Fact -- Self-examination enables me to get in the habit of taking responsibility for all my actions. This is a necessary step in attaining self-respect. 5. We admitted to God, ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrong. Myth -- If anyone knew the truth about me they would reject me. Fact -- I will feel freer and happier once I break the cycle of isolation and begin to trust another human being. Isolation destroys objectivity. 6. We were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character. Myth -- No one can change their character. Fact -- Character defects can be overcome. Habits can be changed. I don't have to take sole responsibility for the removal of character defects. I do have to be willing to ask God for help. 7. We humbly asked God to remove our short- comings. Myth -- It's degrading to have to grovel. Fact -- Humility is not humiliation. Asking for help is an act of humility which makes sense. 8. We made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make direct amends to them all. Myth -- It's crazy to make amends to someone who has hurt me and who keeps hurting me. Fact -- I cannot risk emotional and spiritual suicide by holding onto resentments. Freedom begins from within. 9. We made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would in- jure them or others. Myth -- Those I've hurt will never forgive me, why bother? Fact -- Making an honest effort has nothing to do with how people will respond. Just reaching out will reduce my feeling of shame and give me a new sense of control. 10. We continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it. Myth -- I can never forgive myself. Fact -- I can forgive myself once I accept God's forgiveness. Let go and let God. 11. We sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God, pray- ing only for knowledege of God's will for us, and the power to carry that out. Myth -- I don't know how to pray well. Fact -- The only way to pray well is to pray often. Anyone who asks for God's will and the courage to follow it is praying well. 12. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to others and to practice these principles in" our af- fairs. Myth -- I made a mess of my life so I'm not qualified to counsel others. Fact -- The best guides are those who have travelled the path for they know the pitfalls and obstacles. China denies pope permission to fly over its territory By AGOSTINO BONe Catholic News Service ROME {CNS} -- China has denied Pope John Paul II per- mission to fly over its territory when he visits Asia in October. Alitalia, the l[alian airline which arranges the pope's in- ternational flights, and the Vatican confirmed Italian press reports of the Chinese refusal. Neither the airline nor Vatican officials announced a reason for the refusal. If the route had been ap- proved, it would have marked the first time a pope had flown over the giant Asian nation. The China route would also have allowed Pope John Paul to read a message to the govern- ment and people of that coun- try. On his trips, the pope always directs a shor! radio message from the air to the countries i:e flies over. Chi::": communist gow'.vn- ,nent }m:-; m diplomatic >:- tions .vi,} the Vatican. !t su/. - ports a n ..tiomt[ Catholic cittll'C ol:ga,qi:, i ion wJlich : ;i-i:i  Vati:m i,.,risdiction. At !le S.tll]t* !ime, there aye; ,,ii ,.:stimc.t.c,,: : miiiion t;}fi.:..'.w: loyal ,: hc' Vatican v,,:, :< serve,< i)c o clanciest i ne clt.'ri! "e. On ,/;ei,t. 1, :\\;litaiia coniirm- ed reurts that it ham been refused permission to fly over China during the pope's Col. 6-16 trip to South Korea, In- donesia, East Timor and Mauritius. It did not say whether the Vatican had asked for the pope to be routed over China. Golden anniversary Mr, and Mrs, .4Abert (,r!,s will .commemorate heir 5ott ed,mg a:.miversarv with a Ma;s el' r!.,mk,,;vi-in,z,. (h'ies and ,., .... ior:ner F':orentina \\;;oeJker v, erc :mre,;i !hTIe;Jm.,' !E. !!<;'.t 4 '-';. Golden jubilarians Mr. and Mrs. John I. Mayer Sr. will celebrate their 50th wedding anniversary with a Mass of Thanksgiving, Saturday, September 16, 1 p.m., at Sts. Peter and Paul Church, Haubstadt. An 11 a.m. dinner will be served for immediate family and invited guests. An open house will be held 2-4 p.m. in the Sts. Peter and Paul cafeteria for all friends and relatives. "The greatest gift anyone can give is his love and friendship. No other is expected." Mayer and the former Mary Magdalen Kiesel were married September 16, 1939, at Sis. Peter and Paul. Haubstadt. by the late Rev. Nicholas Forve. They have 10 children, Mary Ane Mm'ris of !aubstadt: i,eo 9f ;;t. Wendei: Martha Wethinghm of Princehm; P.m of Evansville;: Oennis ,ofNmv Lanv: and tohn ,7...'ia Nixon, Jim, Mike ami "!icii. :i{ .'{ F! ;.:",,,:;:,'?. !'1!' ,,'o.17=:: {so }111,% 54 ,.,ra,.,h:hihiren and j(} croat ,, a ,'' :. ';'el..'.{w,',.r i:: a relir;d ci, ildru. Rosa!!e Ma<.;gr'; o! (3cvetan0. v . "(o,,.:::': ,t .......... A!laela, Ca.. ami (;:>m< Caroivn t-hm:bi:,,,,e :,t e::,. ,  ,! . ....................................................................................................... : ...................................................................... ,.:arrmd{v ,:,'siding ,:5 h.ait :-A;,I N,irsin:,, .h;m,:. Washington Nursin,d , 254-5117 LOOGOOTEE NURSING CENTER 295-2101 Catholic Services Weekly Medicare -- Veterans -- Medicaid  . ,, -, > F .4, M " i. 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