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14 The Message -- for Catholics of Southwestern Indiana August 6, P --- On The Record -- Don't deny true feelings after a loss COME UNDONE Mine, immaculate dream/Made breath and skin/I've been wait- ing for you/Signed with a home tattoo/Happy birthday was cre- ated for you/Can't ever keep from falling apart/At the CNS COLUMNIST I seams/Can I believe/You're taking my heart to pieces/Oh it'll take a little time/To come undone now/We'll try to stay blind/To the hope and fear outside/Hey child/Stay wilder than the wind/And blow me in to cry/Who do you need/Who do you love/When you come undone? Words playing me deja vu/Like a radio tune/I swear I've heard before/Chill, is it something real or magic/I'm feeding off your fingers?/Can't ever keep/From falling apart at the seems/Can I believe/You're taking my lieart to pieces?/Lost in a snow-filled sky/We'll make it all right/To come undone now/we'll have to stay blind/To the hope and fear outside/Hey child/Stay wilder than the wind/And blow me in to cry/Who do you need/Who do you love/When you come un- done? Written and sung by Duran Duran Copyright (c) 1993 by EMI Records Ltd. Duran Duran's new disc, "Come Undone," has produced two hits. Last winter, "Ordinary World" climbed near the top of the charts. Now the title song is demonstrating simi- lar success. I really like Duran's sound in the song, "Come Undone," but I'm not sure what it is trying to say. The release reminds me of a painting com- posed of color and light impressions rather than clear, defining lines and shapes. The song's images appear to portray a rela- tionship coming undone. One person realizes that the other is "taking iny heart to pie(:es." How this is occurring is not stated, but the situ- ation will "take a little time." Given the pain in this person's life. he ex- presses his hurt and frustration by asking: "Who do you need, who do you love when you come undone?" When we get close to others, we also become vulnerable. If something injures the shared love or if we discover that we are investing more in the relationship emotionally than the other per- son is doing, we are likely to feel hurt and to ex- perience a sense of loss. Our image of what we thought we had comes undone. Our first tendency is to deny the hurt or to pretend that the relationship wasn't that impor- tant to us. This is a lie. Hurt is hurt. We need to validate what we feel. Denying feelings only prolongs our grieving and stalls the natural healing process. Another tendency that many of us pick up is isolating ourselves from those who might help us through this time of coming undone. Again, this choice only makes the hurt worse. We must tell the truth of our feelings to our- selves, but also to another person -- someohe who will listen with care and compassion. This means taking a risk. Yet the alternative is to put up a strong front while the emptiness and loneliness eat us up inside. One friend who is ahvays available and safe is God. We can take our hearts to God" and share whatever feelings are inside us. We can ask God to lead us to the individuals who will help us put our lives back together. Our God is a God of healing. God wants us to find joy and meaning in life. If our path toward joy and meaning in life seems to take a detour through loss and grief, be assured that God wants to walk with us as a source of strength and renewed hope. It can be difficult to trust when life comes un- done. Take small steps. Be kind to yourself. Find someone safe to talk with. Invite God to show you the way of healing. Your comments are always welcome. Please address: Charlie Martin, RR 3, Box 182, Rock- port, IN 47635. St. Meinrad teacher examines St. Paul's ture at Opus Spiritu Sancti Graduate Theology Seminary in Tanzania, Africa, and was involved in pastoral ministry in Belgium, Germany, Hol- land, England and France. Fa- ther. Buckel is an active member of the Catholic Bibli- cal Association, Society of Biblical Literature and the Catholic Theological Society of America. In addition, Fr. Buckel has offered reflections on Scripture on radio, televi- sion and in religious publica- tions. Father Buckel is also one of the faculty members con- tributing to another book, Christian Freedom, exploring the contemporary issue of re- ligious freedom and its rele- vance for the modern Christ- ian. This volume of ten essays blends scholarly objec- tivity with pastoral sensitiv- ity, as each writer focuses on one aspect of Christian free- dam within his or her field of expertise. The introduction was written by Rev. Eugene Hensell, O.S.B., Ph.D., Presi- dent-Rector of Saint Meinrad Seminary. Ed. L. Lee Mortuary Free to Love is published by W.B. Eerdman's, Grand Rapids, Mich. It is available through Saint Meinrad's Scholar Shop at (812) 357- 6571, or can be ordered through any bookstore. Christian Freedom was edited by Dr. Clayton Iefford and is published by Peter Long Publishing, Inc., New York. It is available through the Scholar Shop at Saint Meinrad Seminary. at (812] 357-6571. Buechlein, O.S.B., Arch- bishop of Indianapolis, writes: "Father Buckel's study of the Letter to the Galatians is the work of a fine scholar and, at the same time, it is the work of a sensitive pastor." Donald Senior, C.P., Presi- dent of Catholic Theological Union, Chicago, IL, and Pro- fessor of New Testament Studies, writes, "Buckel draws on rigorous scholar- ship in his exposition of Paul's letter but never loses sight of the meaning of Gala- tians for contemporary Chris- tian life. The author's clarity and pastoral interest makes this study accessible to more than a scholarly audience." Father Buckel. an Indi- anapolis native, has been teaching a variety of courses on the New Testament at Saint Meinrad School of The- ology since 1989. He was or- dained in 1980 and has served as an associate pastor in Indianapolis, taught Scrip- In his newly published book Free to Love: Paul's De- fense of Christian Liberty in Galatians, Father. John Buckel, Ph.D., Assistant Pro- fessor of Scripture at St. Meinrad School of Theology, addresses St. Paul's funda- mental question in Galatians: What must one do to become and remain a Christian? By exploring the statements of St. Paul made nearly 2000 years ago, Father. Buckel dis- cusses the timeless issue of Christian lihertv. Fie writes how the concept of freedom held by many in society today does not reflect how S{. Paul perceived Christian lib- erty: Christians have been freed from the enslavement of sin and death so that they might love more fully -- love. in the fullest sense of the word, God, themselves and others. Christian liberty must be understood in conjunction with love and responsibility. After reading Free to Love, the Most Reverend Daniel M. T Fs r00o, fe-00 Box 68 Montgomery, Indiana 47558 Donald J. Traylor President Phone: 486-3285 MILLER & MILLER "Funeral Pre-Planning Since 1940" 424-9274 CARRIAGE INN CHICKEN. 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Thursday, Aug. 12 Catechetical sessions in English and Spanish coverage of the arrival of Pope John Paul II, 10 a. 10:30 p.m., EWTN. Welcoming Ceremony for Pope John Paul II, 6:30. p.m. VISN. Nightly Update, 11 -- 11:30 p.m., VISN. Friday, Aug. 13 Catechetical sessions, live coverage of the Cross and Evening Prayer, 10 a.m. -- midnight, Nightly Update, 11 -- 11:30 p.m., VISN. Saturday, Aug. 14 Live updates from the pilgrimage route, Papal Vigil' O a.m. -- midnight, EWTN. Nightly Update, 11 -- 11:30 p.m., VISN. Sunday, Aug. 15 Papal Mass, departure, EWTN Special Report, 9:30 3 p.m. World Youth Day Mass, tape.delayed cvarag! VISN wrap-up, 6  8 p.m. Nightly Update, 11  11:30 p.m., VISN.