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8 The Message -- for Catholics of Southwestern Indiana I July 30, 1993 -- On The Record -- A few guidelines to remember during brief romances FIELDS OF GOLD You'll remember me/When the west wind moves/Upon the fields of barley/You'll forget the sun/In his jealous sky/As we walk in fields of gold/So she took her love/For to gaze awhile/Upon the fields of barley/in his arms she fell/As her hair came down/Among the fields of gold/Will you stay with me?/Will you be my love?/Among the fields of gold/We'll forget the sun/In his jealous sky/As we lie in fields of gold/See the west wind move/Like a lover so/upon the fields of barley/Feel her body rise/when you kiss her mouth/Among the fields of gold/I never made promises lightly/And there have been some/That I've broken/But I swear/In the days still left/we'll walk in fields ofgoldAVe'll walk in fields of gold By CHARLIE MARTIN CNS COLUMNIST Many years have passed/Since those summer days/Among the ileitis of barley/See the children run/As the sun goes down/Among the fields of gold/You'll remember meAYhen the west wind moves/upon the fields of barley/you can tell the sun/In his jealous skyAVhen we walked/In fields of gold/When we walked/In fields of gold/When we walked/In fields of gold Written and Sung by Sting Copyright (c) 1993 by A & M Records "Fields of Gold" is Sting's latest hit off his "Ten Stmmmner's Tales" album. Previonslv, "If I Ever Lose My Faith in You," from the same disc. rose high in the charts. The song is like a tale, a story about a dream- like summer romance. Shared love blossoms as the fields turn gold. But as the seasons change, so does the love. The person in the song watches "the children run as the sun goes down among the fields of gold." and remembers that long-ago romance. The song reminded ine how easy it can be to fall in love. especially helped along by summer- time magic. Many of these romances rio not last. Yet having such relationships can be a natural part of learning about oneself and about the process of loving another. But this is also one reason I encourage teens and young adults to date around. When it comes to romantic relationships, nmch of the knowl- edge that we need can only be attained through interactions with others. As we go through brief romances, it is ilnpor- taut to remember a few guidelines. One needed perspective, as the song indicates, concerns commitment. The person in the song states: "I never made promises lightly, and there have been some that I've broken." Broken promises hurt. We can avoid giving and receiving this pain by trying to see summer roinance for what it is. Here are, some guidelines. 1. Don't proinise "forever love" when you're not sure what will happen to the, relationship when school starts. 2. Don't let love's passion trick you into saying words that vou will late, r re.gret. Ew.'rv relation- ship, no mitter how brief, needs clear emotional and sexual boundaries. 3. Be ch;ar about w)ur own moral values. Make these part of every romance. Doing so will deepen " , is your sense of personal integrity, and mte,grity ihe foundation on which one tuilds a permanent comnfitnmnt later in life. 4. Finally, treat this person you feel love for with digni{y and respect. This style of relating to others conveys your caring. Summing up, I would sav: Keep your perspec- tive. And remember, even {f a snmmer romance fails bv fall's first frost, the gift of your caring will always remain in the other's heart. (Your comments are ahvavs welcome. Please address: Charlie Martin, RI! 3, Box 182, Rock- port, IN 47635.) Magazine zeroes in on links between screen, societal violence LOS ANGELES (CNS) -- Catholic News Service in a try members to reduce the media. -- By age 16, the average The links between violence on the screen and violence in society are inescapable, ac- cording to the writers of a special issue of the magazine Media & Values. One article in the maga- zine, released July 16, said 3,000 studies in the past four decades have established a causal link between violence on the screen and violence in the streets. Sister Elizabeth Thoman, executive director of the Los Angeles- based Center for Media and Values, which mblishes the magazine, told July 14 telephone interview the television industry con- tinues to resist any link be- tween the two. "There's a perfect analogy to the tobacco industry. They won't admit that the product they sell causes problems for the people who use it," said Sister Thoman, a member of the Congregation of the Hu- mility of Mary. Dr. Brandon Centerwall, a psychiatrist in private prac- tice in Washington state, fur- ther explored the analogy in an interview in the magazine. "The idea of asking indus- AUTO TOPS . SEAT COVERS . BOAT COVERS STEREO SALES & INSTALLATIONS Washington Auto Trim 27 Years Service 254-3943 HWY 50 EAST, BEHIND UPS CENTER EUGENE WELP, OWNER COMPLETE INSURANCE SERVICE Auto! Home! Fire & Lifol Your Personal Service Agent James L. Will Ins. Agency inc. 1925 W. Franklin Street 425-3187 amount of tobacco they grow out of their sense of social conscience is absurd. They won't do it," he said. "The same applies to the television industry and for exactly the same reasons," he said. Centerwall conducted a study which compared U.S., Canadian and white South African homicide rates before and after the introduction of television. He said his study showed a lag of up to 15 years between the first exposure to TV vio- lence and the commission of violent acts. "Violence has the greatest effect upon preadolescent children under the age of 12," Centerwall said. "Children have to age 10- 15 years be- fore they are old enough to commit homicides." Violence watched in adulthood, he said, does not change adult value systems. Walter Wink, a professor of biblical interpretation at Auburn Theological Semi- nary, New York, said in one article that ancient violence myths resurface in today's "The classic gunfighters of the "Western' settle old scores by shootouts, never by due process of law," Wink said. "The yearning for a messianic redeemer who will set things right is thus, in its essence, a totalitarian fantasy." Even the wildly popular "Home Alone" movies come in for criticism in an article by Judith Myers-Walls, an as- sociate professor of child de- velopment at Purdue Univer- sity, Lafayette, Ind. "I watched my son and his friends sketch out and reen- act that movie over and over. Finally, my son and another 7-year-old boy drove a nail through a board and left it point up on the other boy's basement stairs," Myers- Walls said. "The friend was surprised and sobered when his mother's foot bled after she stepped on it. "There wasn't any blood when they did it in the movie,' he said." The Media & Values issue also restates some of the most widely circulated statistics on television violence: child spends as much time watching TV as being in school, tm Pname time shows con" i-n-an verage of five violent acts per hour, but Saturday morning cartoons carry 25 vr olent acts an hour. of -- A review of one day programming on WashingtOn" area cable TV systems re; vealed an overall average 0J 100 violent acts an hour. Sister Thoman said it as "fortuitous" the magaz!ne t: cused on TV violence just _ ' " " S' rotlp Congress and mnzen g. _, were addressin the subje'" On June 3o, the four cme;d cml broadcast networks su . the would air an advlSrn{ Y " lent cont"-- warnm of vlo --,, prior to airing shoWS tlaJ to be violent. e of the quardeem terhemnaX:zS:e u due ,n OctO" Y g -d co" ber, was to recommen structive ste s viewers c P the amt' take to cut down a, eff of violent TV that enters .k., homes and is produced oy the networks.