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The Message -- for Catholics of Southwestern Indiana July 22, 1994_ -- On The Record- What causes snag in romantic ties IF YOU GO Taking a day at a time/Dealing with feelings/I don't wanna hide/Learning to love/As I go, baby/Without taking you/Along for a ride CNS COLUMNIST Tried to find myself/Tried to find the truth/Get out from this shell/Girl I'm almost there/To show you/How much I really care (REFRAIN) If you go, say goodbye/There'll be some- thing/Missing in life/'Cause you know/That all I really/(All I really) want is you Sorry if you felt misled/But I know what I feel I know what I said, baby/God I hope you be- lieve/Believe in all that can be/The future in us together in love You're the reason I'm strong/Don't you think I don't know/This is where I belong/Give me the time/To say that you're mine/To say that you're mine - (REPEAT REFRAIN; REPEAT VERSE 2; (REPEAT REFRAIN TWICE) Written by Jon Secada/Migue! A. Morejon Sung by John Secada Copyright (c) 1994 by SBK Records How long should one wait for romance to grow into commit- ment? This is a question that I believe Jon Secada's latest hit ?If You Go" is addressing. If you follow this column, you know that I am a Secada fan. His combination of dynamic vo- cals with Latin beats puts lots of pizazz into his music. The song describes a guy in love. He's "tak- ing a day at a time, dealing with feelings I don't wanna hide." He wants to show his girl "how much I really care." He knows that if she gives up on the rela- tionship, "there'll be something missing in life." He hopes that she will "give me the time to say that you're mine." No information is given on how long the girl has been waiting, or how old they are, or whether they have hurt each other. However, there is value in going slow in love, taking the time to search one's deeper feelings, wants and goals. Apparently, some talk about what the rela- tionship means has already occurred. The guy apologizes if this dialogue has "misled" her. Now he wants to avoid miscommunication. He hopes she still believes "in all that can be." Yet he is not ready to express a permanent commitment. Assuming that this waiting time hasn't amounted to years, the girl would be well ad- vised to support his need to take more time. During this waiting period, it might be helpful to both individuals to keep talking about each per- son's doubts or concerns. Some questions that could facilitate their dis- cussion are the following: 1. What fears hold the guy back? What actions or steps is he willing to try in the hope of reducing these fears? 2. What have both people gained from the ro- mance so far? What are they hoping for in the fu- ture? 3. What is the next step that needs to occur if an agreement on a permanent commitment is to be reached eventually? 4. Who else might they talk to, either individu" ally or as a couple, who could help them attain fur- ther clarity? 5. Has anything painful occurred in their re- spective growing up that might be affecting each person's feelings about commitment? Discussing these questions could build more trust. Remember, trust is essential to mature love. Beyond such dialogue, I would encourage the couple to take time to pray together. They can seek God's guidance for whatever course of action would bring the most good for their lives, no matter what the choice concerning the corn" mitment. (Your comments are always welcome, please address: Charlie Martin, RR 3, Box 182, Rockport, IN 47635.) U.S.C.C. offers reviews of current movies NEW YORK (CNS) -- The following are capsule reviews of movies recently reviewed by the U.S. Catholic Conference Office for Film and Broadcast- ing. Baby's Day Out (20th Cen- tury Fox) Crawling away from three dopey kidnappers (Joe Man- tegna, Joe Pantoliano and Brian Haley), a 9-month-old infant blissfully enjoys a visit to the Zoo, a department store and a construction site all on his own as the klutzy trio scrambles to recapture him. Director Patrick Read John- son's mildly entertaining for- mula comedy gets its mileage out of the juxtaposition of the adorable baby (twins Adam and Jacob Worton) amidst in- credible situations. Frequent slapstick violence and fantasy treatment of an infant in jeop- ardor. The U.S. Catholic Con- ference classification is A-II -- i II I I II 1 Ed. L. Lee Mortuary 101 North Meridian Street Washington, IN 254-3612 iii iii i III ii LinCo Coffee Services Total Beverage Distributor Indiana-Illinois-Kentucky 46 Varities of Coffees and Teas MATCH IT Washington 254.-4409 Evansville 422-1833 Main Street Pharmacy 217 E. Main St. Downtown Waslitngton Phone: 254-5141 adults and adolescents. The Motion Picture Association of America rating is PG -- parental guidance suggested. Ciao, Professors (Mira- max) When a highly cultured teacher (Paolo Villaggio) is ac- cidentally, transferred from northern ItaI an impover- ished Neapolitan village, he learns much about life by teaching streetwise third- graders, many of whom are al- ready working to support their families. Director Lina Wert- muller puts a gently comic spin on the poverty and me ram- pant in the area, but the un- even narrative frequently stoops to soggy sentimentality. Subtitles. Fleeting violence, much graphic slang and fre- quent rough language. The U.S. Catholic Conference clas- sification is A-III -- adults. The Motion Picture Association of America rating is R -- re- stricted. The Conjugal Bed (Leisure Time) Despairing melodrama set in contemporary Romania where a brutally abusive husband (Gheorghe Dinica), lusting after his mistress-turned-pros- titute, determines to kill his pregnant wife, then hangs himself when she survives his hammering a nail into her brain. Director Mircea Daneliuc ineptly attempts to satirize a post-communist soci- ety by picturing its unstable economy as the principal rea- son virtually all of the charac- ters act irrationally. Graphic spousal abuse, gory violence, mindless promiscuity, much nudity and frequent rough lan- guage. The U.S. Catholic Con- ference classification is O morally offensive. Not rated by the Motion Picture Association of America. Forrest Gump (Para- mount) Inspired by the faith his mother (Sally Field) has in him, a slow-witted Southerner (Tom Hanks) becomes a foot- ball All-American, Vietnam hero and millionaire entrepre- neur, despite intermittent re- jection by his troubled, lifelong friend and sweetheart (Robin Wright). Director Robert Ze- meckis' big-hearted love story cleverly incorporates gimmicks into the narrative without ever losing focus on the emotional and spiritual d the title character. A creet bedroom sceneS, tense battlefield violence, ing drug use and rough language. The Catholic ConferenCe tion is A-III -- adults. 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