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1998 The Message -- for Catholics of Southwestern Indiana 11 Should the parents attend this wedding? By FATHER JOHN DIETZEN Catholic News Service A wedding is scheduled soon between lady and a Catholic man. )riest and a rabbi will officiate, but his parents not attend. According to them, their priest told it Would be a mortal sin to go. This cannot be, uri) Under no circumstances I can think of atically be a serious sin for parents to their son's wedding. More about that later. you don't give enough details to whethe: or not the marriage will be recog- olic Church. hem are free to marry, the bishop may them a dispensation (called a dispensa- form) permitting them to be married !an official other than a Catholic priest. The fact that a priest will also be present for the wedding would ordinarily lead one to conclude that sucha dispensation was obtained. If so, the wedding is as valid in the eyes of the church as a marriage before a priest. In such circumstances, the actual officiating min- ister would be the rabbi, for example. A priest may or may not be present as a guest or participant, but the rabbi would officially receive their vows. If the couple did not prepare for their marriage with a priest and did not obtain the dispensation from the form, then the marriage would not be recog- nized according to Catholic law. In neither case, however, may one say that the parents would always sin by attending the ceremony. These are sometimes difficult decisions. As I have written several times before, parents and others close to the bride or groom need to weigh many factors. What would happen to their relationship with their family if they did not attend? Would their attending negatively affect the faith of other family members or friends, particularly children? Could the}, in some way minimize the negative conse- quences by discussion with those affected? Would the bride and groom misread their atten- dance as total approval? Could the parents make clear their attendance is an expression of continuing love for their child, but the), are hurt by the apparent disregard of the hith that is valuable in their lives? And so on. In my own experience, if the situation is handled thoughtfull, almost ahvays more good and less harm is done by being there than by staying away. But each decision needs to be made on its own. I hope you can help the parents be aware of the facts and if necessary ask the good questions in deciding whether to attend. A free brochure outlining basic Catholic prayers, beliefs and moral precepts is available by sendhlg a stamped, self-addnsed envelope to Father John Dietzen, Box 325, Peoria II1. 51651. Questions for this column should be sent to Father Dietzen at the same address. ,ds pay last respects to Notre Dame's Father Putz DAME, Ind. (CNS) of Notre Dame )acked into a basilica for the funeral of Holy Louis Putz, 89, one School's most revered a pastoral theologian, a and university pro- a publisher, a commu- organizer and especially Father Putz pro- influenced the Ameri- of his genera- 'sity said in an born Father associate professor died June House on the funer- blNGS Made On Your Lot :KAGES Ven/low Prices. , Size to 100' DOORS in Stock Prices Sq. ft. in stock METAL E., Cannelburg. !0f Columbus II 630 an ENU Chicken al Mass was celebrated at the university's Basilica of the Sacred Heart. Burial was at Holy Cross Community Cemetery. Father Putz was born June 1, 1909, in Simbach, Bavaria, the oldest of three children in a rail- road worker's family. In 1923 when he was 14, an aunt who was a Holy Cross nun stationed in California suggest- ed his parents send him to the United States to prepare for the priesthood at Notre Dame. He arrived at Ellis Island in New York, speaking German and French but no English and dis- playing a tag that read, "Deliv- er me to South Bend, Ind." After graduating from Notre Dame in 1932, Father Putz was sent to France to study Count on us for professional medical care, any time of the day or night. I  ESS mmCOUNTY II IFRDSPEAL 1314 Grand Avenue Washington, Indiana 47501 (812) 254-276o w'w.&hosp.org : SCHNELLVlLLE. i ii i ii i i FOR COMPLETE ELECTRICAL SERVICE FISCHER ELECTRIC INC. SCHNELLVILLE, IN 389-2418 i i i WILLIAMS BROS. HEALTH CARE __pHARMACY "Your fleallh Cxzrv Prq.,sskxms" Chides C. Wgiams, R.Ph. Jeffrey W, Williams, RPh Mark A. Williams, R. Ph. t 0 Weans ibos D,. Wastwon, IN 4750 I00.L:4064 Fzz (82) 254.7857 ii i HI NAAS & SONS, INC. Excavating & Trucking Ooztr .Trenching .Stone ,Gravel - , Water & Sewer Lines .ReltBI and Commercial 768-6450 = FAX 812-7611-5518 Mark at aS;'.Tt. R.R # l (2 miles W. on 68), Hau,ladt Tom at 768-500@ theology at Holy Cross semi- nary in LeMans and the Insti- tut Catholique in Paris. At the Institut his teachers included then-Father Yves Con- gar, a Dominican who was a pio- neering theologian and ecu- menist; French Jesuit Father Jean Danielou, "a patristics scholar; and French Jesuit Father Henri de Lubac, also a prominent the- ologian. All three would even- tually become cardinals. Father Putz was ordained a priest in 1936 in Paris, and immediately began working in the poor neighborhoods of the city with Father Joseph Cardijn, a social activist and founder of the Young Christian Workers who later also became a cardinal. At the beginning of World War II, Father Putz had to flee Europe because he still held a German passport. He returned to the United States and taught theology at Notre Dame from 1940-66. Fie served as rect)r of Moreau Semina D" from 1966-72. During this period he also founded Fides Publishing Co., the Young Christian Students and (was one of the founders o0 the Cluistian Family Movement.  (812) 254-2641 SAVINGS BANK, FSB 200 E. Van Trees St., Washington 500 Main St., Petersburg MUENSTERMAN'S FIRESTONE SERVICE, INC. 140o w. Franklin Evansville, IN 424-5000 i WASHING TON.-SHO/U--S4.OOGOOTE E In the early '70s he started the Forever Learning Institute, and Harvest House, a community service organization run by and for elderly people. From 1972-79 he was director of Family Life Services for the Diocese of Fort Wayne-South Bend and from 1979-85 he directed the senior adult living >rogram for the Phoenix Dio- cese. He returned to Notre Dame to live in the priests' res- idence there and was chaplain to a retirement community. He was the author of several books, including "Modem Apos- tle," and was editor of "Catholic Church, U.S.A.," and "Seminary in a Time of Change." He was at work on a book on the spiritual- itv of aging when he died. Worth mentioning0000000000,,iCi00 "Sister Moms' organized, meet for conference "Sister Morns," a new ovganization for women religious who have children, held its first national meethg at the Move Spirituality Center in northern Kentucky; Jtme 12 to 14. Forty- four sisters from 18 states attended. The sisters represented 36 religious congregations. They ranged in age from 46 to over 75, and their families includ- ed approximately 149 children and I66 grandchildren. Members of the planning committee included Benedictine Sister Jayn Lein from Monastery Inmaculate Conception, Ferdinand. Outpatient rehabilitation center under construction St. Mary's Health Care Services announced plans to open an outpatient rehabilitation facility at )larbron, adjacent to the retirment community's assisted-living facility which is currently under construction. larbron Pointe is located west of the USI campus near Evansville. 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