Newspaper Archive of
The Message
Evansville, Indiana
May 7, 1993     The Message
PAGE 5     (3 of 20 available)        PREVIOUS     NEXT      Full Size Image
PAGE 5     (3 of 20 available)        PREVIOUS     NEXT      Full Size Image
May 7, 1993

Newspaper Archive of The Message produced by SmallTownPapers, Inc.
Website © 2020. All content copyrighted. Copyright Information.     Terms Of Use.     Request Content Removal.

1993 The Message Monthly -- for Catholics of Southwestern Indiana miracles day with Andy offers new surprises and blessings for his mother Me ANN HUGHES SSage staff writer will t..!fY'?u look for miracles you ilh': them. Just ask Joan e he- Sees little miracles usury day,in places most of 'vuul(ln t think to look. stff&ners ees them in the eyes of She f who offer prayers. tUres'rut s them in'kind ges- r0ra friends a seesth- nd she era in her son Andy. Ubelhor is 26-years- Is confined to a he's never tasted Ood, and his verbal are limited to a few Joan's buddy and friends. 7 when Andy was -, Was nothing to in- future problems. fifth son and thinking she utiful 10-pound Almost imme- had difficulty and he began los- Four weeks later, )ounds under and doctors had no muscle esophagus. n giving him Lgs every two night," and he mg extensive apolis, in aad in Boston. gained ounces tests were nega- forget the look face in when he said, is not in the know what With him and we for 7ou. Vic doctors and )ut Andy in a special needs care of. She that Andy right to stay as my four other Caose to keep to take care of ld think was to make this I never him up." had limited Joan knew that he understood her. "When he was six-months-old I would say, 'Let's put your shoes on,' and he would put his foot up." When he was three, he was placed in a program for pre- school children and a teacher would come to their home in the mornings. "She would read to him. I was astonished at what he knew. He had physical problems more than mental problems." Raising five boys, including a son with special problems, had its moments, Joan ad- mits, but her faith helped her through difficult times. "My boys didn't have a mother, they had two moth- ers. I really had the Blessed Mother to help me raise these kids. When I felt they were beginning to fall, I would walk over to Christ the King and light a candle. I would ask her to take over. She al- ways picked them up again. I had a strong faith and they all turned out to be such good kids. "One of my joys as a mother is that the boys ac- cepted Andy. He was a part of their lives. None of my boys was never ashamed of Andy or his physical prob- lems. Andy was never in the closet. He was always a part of what we did." Over the years, Joan says she has watched as her spe- cial son has touched others, even total strangers. "I take him for walks in the evenings, but I hadn't been out for a while. This man came up to me and asked, 'Where is your little boy?' Then he said, 'He is in my prayers every night.' "I have no idea who that man was but I know Andy has touched a lot of lives along the way." Today, all of her sons are grown and only Andy lives at home. She says their days to- gether are filled with sur- prises. "Andy is a mystery. Every day there is something excit- ing that happens. Everyday there is something new. "Just the little things I do for him or a song on the radio makes him happy. Whenever I see him happy, it's like my heart is enlarging because I know how the poor child has missed out on so much in life that other children do. When he is happy, it makes me so happy. "The little surprises every day keep me going. That's when I know that there is life there." One Thanksgiving evening, after his brothers had gone to their own homes, Andy looked at his mother and said, "He. He He." Joan realized what he meant. "I said, 'That's right, Andy. The next time we will all be together will be Christ- mas.' It was another one of his surprises. "Each year I say what more is he going to let me know?" She says she treats Andy "the way I would like to be treated. "If a friend of mine is very ill, I wouldn't give up trying to make them happy and Andy is one of my best friends. "They didn't expect him to live and each day he is here is a joy to me. They say I'm keeping him alive. Each day I think 'I've done it again. What an accomplishment!'" What a miracle. ANDY AND JOAN UBELHOR SERVICE SHOPPING GUIDE E BEST Sales & Service =0. "IV & 2-Way FM MASTER Estimates 1916 W. FRANKLIN STREET PHONE (812) 423-7849 Herman Goebel Motor Co.' NEW OR USF.D CARS Where lhe be (mlis m mllde Trlide up or down Bank Fblanctng 2001 W. _l),._._,Jlr 4:L-7759 M&S Fire & Safety Equip. Co. Inc. Or 25 ),oars sales and service in the TrMaH) 670 E. Franklin 424-3863 May May May May May May May I I Prayers for mothers 3 having difficulty accepting the lifestyles of their children...that accep- tance will be theirs. 14: For mothers who have lost children...that they will find peace. 15: For mothers Who have physically challenged children...that they will have the sta- mina to give. May 16: For mothers of teenagers...that they remember Jesus was a teenager too. May 17: For mothers who have children in prison...that the time of separation will be a heal- ing experience. May 18: For mothers whose children are far away...that they maintain a loving relationship with their children. May 19: For mothers who are short of patience...that they find peace. May 20: For mothers of foster children...that they may have the courage to continue. May 21: For mothers of adopted children...that their gifts be appreciated. May 22: For mothers as they grow older...that they will be blessed with wisdom and grace. May 23: For mothers who are looking for emploYment...that they will find jobs, May 24: For mothers who feel like their children s chauffeurs...that they won t run out of gas. May 26: For all mothers who have been called to give life...that they may experience a rich life. May 27: For mothers who struggle alone...that they will find support. May 28: For women who wish to be mothers...that they will be vessels of Christ's Love. May 29: For mothers who live with cancer...that they may find courage and outer strength. May 30: For mothers who are raising their children's children...that they will have the humor needed. May 31: For mothers who are plagued with addiction...that they will find the strength to per. severe. June 1: For mothers who are imprisoned...that they will find the strength to persevere, une 2: For mothers who suffer from depression and anxiety...that they find nope in Christ's abiding presence. me 3: For mothers who are widows...that their loneliness will be transformed. une 4: For mothers with chronic health problems...that the}, experience Christ's healing power. me 5: For mothers in nursing homes...that loneliness will be replaced with fulfilling rela* tionships. June 6: For mothers who are in abusive relationships...that they will find safety and sup- port. une 7: For mothers who work outside the home...that their away time from their children will balance with happy times. of Jesus. 11: For mothers 12: For mothers love. 13: For mothers who are struggling with divorce...that they will find comfort. who are themselves very young...that they continue to grow in God's The following Mother's Day prayers were provided by the Sisters of Providence at St. Mary-of.the-Woods. Our Lady of Providence, Queen of the Home, I recommend to your care all mothers of the world. May your gentle strength, courage and joy be a model to them as they rear their families. Through your son Jesus, bring help to the poor who cannot feed their chil- dren and comfort those who mourn for lost children. May your intercession bring eternal life to all mothers who have died. Unite them once again with their children. May they, with you, praise our provident God forever. Amen. 9: For all mothers of the children of the world. 10: For mothers who children grow up in war...that they will be able to share the Love