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8 The Message -- for Catholics of Southwestern Indiana -- On The Record--- When a person won't accept the love you Offer COME TO MY WINDOW (REFRAIN) Come to my window/Crawl in- side/Wait by the light of the moon/Come to my window/I'll be home soon By CHARLIE MARTIN i I would dial the number/Just to listen to your breath/And I would stand inside my hell/And hold the hand of death/You don't know how far I'd go/To ease this precious ache/And you don't know how much I'd give/And how much I Can take/Just to reach you/Just to reach you (REPEAT REFRAIN) Keeping my eyes open/I cannot afford to see/Living lonely promises/That I know that I can't keep/Nothing fills the blackness/That has seeped into my chest/I need you in my blood/I have forsaken all the rest/Just to reach you/Just to reach you (REPEAT REFRAIN) I don't care what they think/I don't care what they say/What do they know/About this love anyway (REPEAT REFRAIN TWICE.) Written and sung by Melissa Etheridge Copyright (e) 1993 by Island Records Inc. Melissa Etheridge reminds me of a female Michael Bolton. Her soul-sound- ing "Come to My Window" packs the same type of emotional inten- sity found in many of Bolton's songs. Etheridge's current chart hit describes a woman's efforts to reach out to a man. Unfortu- nately, he appears to reject her love. But she refuses to give up on the relationship. She tells him that "you don't know how far I'd go to ease this precious ache." Nor does he realize "how much I'd give and how much I can take just to reach you." She hopes he will "come to my window" and thus symbolize that their relationship has a new start. So how does one reach a person who doesn't want to be reached? Or, to phrase the question differently, when should one accept that there is no way left to renew a relationship? These are difficult questions with no sure an- swers. Much depends on why the other person has chosen to distance himself or herself from a gift of love. When current circumstances are the problem, some path to healing the hurt may develop. Ex- amples of such circumstances would be a recent conflict or argument, an unfair decision that has hurt one or both individuals, or an unforeseen change of events, like a surprise job or school transfer. While such concerns are not easily resolved, they do allow for honest dialogue. We can work through the fear, anger or other painful emotions and thus rediscover the good within the relation- ship. Such an outcome requires patience ance. Other obstacles to love present deeper Some individuals feel unworthy or love. Others have experienced emotionaltrauma the past, such as a form of abuse. Then there is the person who has strong sense of personal identity and thus know what he or she wants in life. In these and similar situations, the ing open to love must be done by the individual, $ in the relationship. Healing is needed for fore enough trust exists to enter a loving relation' ship. The person who wants to give his or remain caring toward the other indi must be realized is that no one possesses the to make another person accept love that Most likely -- in cases when the work up to love lies in the person, not the the one rejecting the offer of love is a committed love relationship. It is not stand why another cannot be reached with love. What the person offering love can do is to to guide both persons to discover what each' needs in order to give and receive love, timately is to found in a different (Your comments are always address: Charlie Martin, RR 3, Box port, IN 47635.) Diocesan native, TV sitcom mom, takes her faith on the By MARK PATTISON Catholic News Service HOLLYWOOD (CNS -- Flo- rence Henderson, one of the most popular morns in all tele- visiondom, takes her Catholic faith on the road whether she's working in a nightclub, a musi- cal, Las Vegas, or TV. CTNA: What's available CTNA Family Today is the title of a series of eight one-hour pro- grams which examine issues fac- ing contemporary families, avail- able on the Catholic Telecommunications Network of America. The series will be transmitted on Ku-band, Satellite SBS 6, Transponder 13, on Wednesdays at 6 p.m., starting July 6. For more information about CTNA, how to become an affili- ate, or how to receive programs transmitted, contact Paul R. Leingang at the diocesan office of communications, (812) 424- 5536 or (800) 637-1731. Or contact CTNA at (800) 432-CTNA. I I I Medical Arts Pharmacy 3700 Bellemeade Avenue Phone 477-1532 Donald Gutzweiler City-Wide Delivery Duncan's Riverside Pharmacy Prescnpton Service Drugs - Sundries - Cosmetics Magazines - "We Deliver" Corner Riverside and Governor Evansville 422-9981 ..... i i ii iiii Stratman's Pharmacy City-Wide Delivery 413 Locust Street John and Judy Stratman 425-5293 i i PAUL'S PHARMACY Paul Mayer, Owner 2107 W. Franklin St. 425-4364 Plaza Pharmacy Newburgh Plaza Shopping Center Fast Prescription Service Ken and Rebecca Hacker 853-7141 Oak Hill Pharmacy Prescription Specialists Hwy. 62 and N. Weinbsch Ave. LARRY SCHULTHEIS, Prop. 425-4422 i, i i. "Faith is a gift that's within us .... If it's not going with you, then you don't have much faith," said Ms. Henderson. "I do believe very strongly in prayer, and I'm very grateful that I've had that in my life, because I think it sustains you in very difficult times. And our business can be extremely dif- ficult. But I think it has to be within you, and you just can't park it and pick it up when you want it." She said prayer keeps enter- tainers "from having a dis- torted image of who they are" and opens them up to new peo- ple as they go from city to city. "And those are what I call mo- ments of grace," she said. "I'm a great believer in the Holy Spirit, in grace. "Whether people know how you believe or what you think about religion, I think they can sense that about you. I think people feel something m they might not know what it is, but I think they certainly feel its presence." Ms. Henderson is best known for playing Carol Brady for five seasons of "The Brady Bunch," the ABC sitcom that has endured in reruns for a generation. On May 7, she plays the mother of Caryl on the sitcom "The Mommies," to air 8-8:30 p.m. EDT on NBC. She also did two guest.turns this season as Maggie, Dave Barry's witchy mother-in-law, on the CBS sitcom "Dave's World." Ms. Henderson said she has heard she may get an Emmy nomination for the role. II She even taped a comedy bit for CBS' "Late Show with David Letterman," to air the week of May 9. She has ap- peared on the show occasion- ally as a guest. The actress is the youngest of 10 children "from a huge Catholic family," she said, "and my father didn't marry until he was 47 .... He was 67 when I was born." Ms. Henderson, who married at age 20, herself has four grown children and "a lovely grandchild." Born in tiny Dale, Ind., across the Ohio River from Owensboro, Ky., she later moved with her family about 25 miles away to Rockport, Ind. She was educated by Benedictine nuns and priests in St. Meinrad and Ferdinand, Ind. (She also noted she has a priest in the family; her uncle, Jesuit Father Charles Whelan, teaches constitutional law at Fordham University.) "I really owe so much to the Benedictines. They took me under their wing and realized I could sing," she said. Ms. Henderson added the Benedictines "put me in the big choir by the time I was 8 years old. I learned four-part Latin Masses and Gregorian chant. It was a wonderful training for me. I did that for 12 years." She took her confirmation name, Gemma, from a Bene- dictine nun with whom she still corresponds. "That's how much I loved her," Ms. Hender- son said. She recently brought Sister Gemma and four other Benedictine nuns to catch her MILLER & MILLER  "Funeral Pre-Planning Since 1940" 424-9274 ii I I IIIIII I I I show in VegaS: ball." The poor. Dad was a and morn a worked the Florence for a after getting never l been out of wood." Last did return area to do a Brescia run school lot of money, really She sal cause parents certain TV their childre "They're little the world a what's being derson said. She B few have been a that eve.ryO with ally love love it. And thai strong after solutely The show everyone that is ditional love, mistakeS, forgiven,