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The Message -- for Catholics of Southwestern Indiana
-- On The Record---
When a person won't accept the love you Offer
COME TO MY WINDOW
(REFRAIN)
Come to my window/Crawl in-
side/Wait by the light of the
moon/Come to my window/I'll
be home soon
By CHARLIE MARTIN i
I would dial the number/Just to listen to your
breath/And I would stand inside my hell/And
hold the hand of death/You don't know how
far I'd go/To ease this precious ache/And you
don't know how much I'd give/And how much
I Can take/Just to reach you/Just to reach you
(REPEAT REFRAIN)
Keeping my eyes open/I cannot afford to
see/Living lonely promises/That I know that I
can't keep/Nothing fills the blackness/That
has seeped into my chest/I need you in my
blood/I have forsaken all the rest/Just to
reach you/Just to reach you
(REPEAT REFRAIN)
I don't care what they think/I don't care what
they say/What do they know/About this love
anyway
(REPEAT REFRAIN TWICE.)
Written and sung by Melissa Etheridge
Copyright (e) 1993 by Island Records Inc.
Melissa Etheridge reminds me of a female
Michael Bolton. Her soul-sound-
ing "Come to My Window" packs
the same type of emotional inten-
sity found in many of Bolton's
songs.
Etheridge's current chart hit
describes a woman's efforts to
reach out to a man. Unfortu-
nately, he appears to reject her love.
But she refuses to give up on the relationship.
She tells him that "you don't know how far I'd go
to ease this precious ache." Nor does he realize
"how much I'd give and how much I can take just
to reach you."
She hopes he will "come to my window" and
thus symbolize that their relationship has a new
start.
So how does one reach a person who doesn't
want to be reached? Or, to phrase the question
differently, when should one accept that there is
no way left to renew a relationship?
These are difficult questions with no sure an-
swers. Much depends on why the other person
has chosen to distance himself or herself from a
gift of love.
When current circumstances are the problem,
some path to healing the hurt may develop. Ex-
amples of such circumstances would be a recent
conflict or argument, an unfair decision that has
hurt one or both individuals, or an unforeseen
change of events, like a surprise job or school
transfer.
While such concerns are not easily resolved,
they do allow for honest dialogue. We can work
through the fear, anger or other painful emotions
and thus rediscover the good within the relation-
ship.
Such an outcome requires patience
ance.
Other obstacles to love present deeper
Some individuals feel unworthy or
love. Others have experienced emotionaltrauma
the past, such as a form of abuse.
Then there is the person who has
strong sense of personal identity and thus
know what he or she wants in life.
In these and similar situations, the
ing open to love must be done by the individual, $
in the relationship. Healing is needed for
fore enough trust exists to enter a loving relation'
ship.
The person who wants to give his or
remain caring toward the other indi
must be realized is that no one possesses the
to make another person accept love that
Most likely -- in cases when the work
up to love lies in the person, not the
the one rejecting the offer of love is
a committed love relationship. It is not
stand why another cannot be reached with
love.
What the person offering love can do is to
to guide both persons to discover what each'
needs in order to give and receive love,
timately is to found in a different
(Your comments are always
address: Charlie Martin, RR 3, Box
port, IN 47635.)
Diocesan native, TV sitcom mom, takes her faith on the
By MARK PATTISON
Catholic News Service
HOLLYWOOD (CNS -- Flo-
rence Henderson, one of the
most popular morns in all tele-
visiondom, takes her Catholic
faith on the road whether she's
working in a nightclub, a musi-
cal, Las Vegas, or TV.
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"Faith is a gift that's within
us .... If it's not going with you,
then you don't have much
faith," said Ms. Henderson.
"I do believe very strongly in
prayer, and I'm very grateful
that I've had that in my life,
because I think it sustains you
in very difficult times. And our
business can be extremely dif-
ficult. But I think it has to be
within you, and you just can't
park it and pick it up when you
want it."
She said prayer keeps enter-
tainers "from having a dis-
torted image of who they are"
and opens them up to new peo-
ple as they go from city to city.
"And those are what I call mo-
ments of grace," she said. "I'm
a great believer in the Holy
Spirit, in grace.
"Whether people know how
you believe or what you think
about religion, I think they can
sense that about you. I think
people feel something m they
might not know what it is, but
I think they certainly feel its
presence."
Ms. Henderson is best
known for playing Carol Brady
for five seasons of "The Brady
Bunch," the ABC sitcom that
has endured in reruns for a
generation. On May 7, she
plays the mother of Caryl on
the sitcom "The Mommies," to
air 8-8:30 p.m. EDT on NBC.
She also did two guest.turns
this season as Maggie, Dave
Barry's witchy mother-in-law,
on the CBS sitcom "Dave's
World." Ms. Henderson said
she has heard she may get an
Emmy nomination for the role.
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She even taped a comedy bit
for CBS' "Late Show with
David Letterman," to air the
week of May 9. She has ap-
peared on the show occasion-
ally as a guest.
The actress is the youngest
of 10 children "from a huge
Catholic family," she said, "and
my father didn't marry until
he was 47 .... He was 67 when I
was born." Ms. Henderson,
who married at age 20, herself
has four grown children and "a
lovely grandchild."
Born in tiny Dale, Ind.,
across the Ohio River from
Owensboro, Ky., she later
moved with her family about
25 miles away to Rockport,
Ind. She was educated by
Benedictine nuns and priests
in St. Meinrad and Ferdinand,
Ind. (She also noted she has a
priest in the family; her uncle,
Jesuit Father Charles Whelan,
teaches constitutional law at
Fordham University.)
"I really owe so much to the
Benedictines. They took me
under their wing and realized I
could sing," she said.
Ms. Henderson added the
Benedictines "put me in the big
choir by the time I was 8 years
old. I learned four-part Latin
Masses and Gregorian chant.
It was a wonderful training for
me. I did that for 12 years."
She took her confirmation
name, Gemma, from a Bene-
dictine nun with whom she
still corresponds. "That's how
much I loved her," Ms. Hender-
son said. She recently brought
Sister Gemma and four other
Benedictine nuns to catch her
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