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The Message -- for Catholics of Southwestern Indiana Bender 3 wife, mother busy as Natural Family Planning practitioner way that life ;people, Shawn t life, but found her heart- into joy. the wife of County mother of blond- She's expect- old by thou- ' fields. and a prac- uite a con- She parents. When she "started 'What am I began Some and "I Commu- understand the body and she met a ' were Catholic, and their dates by dVansville. Father instruc- but the engagement didn't. "Two to three months before the wedding, we discovered many, many differences, and Father Deig said, 'You need to postpone the wedding.'" He suggested that Shawn "stop taking instructions for a while" so she could decide if join- ing the Catholic Church was something she really wanted to do, or if she was just joining because her financ6 was Catholic. "He told me to pray about it." After much thought, she called Father Deig and told him she wanted to continue with instruc- tions because she believed she had "finally found a home" in the Catholic Church. At the same time, Shawn and her financ6 called off their wed- ding. When she lost this life, she remembers, "it was the most difficult part of my life, but I knew God would provide. "The next day, I went to get a pizza with my sister, and I met Pat Bender." Suddenly, "one of the worst things turned into the best." Her engagement had led her to the Catholic Church. Now, the break-up led her to meet the man she would marry. One of the first things Pat. asked her, when he discovered she was taking instructions, was about the Church's teaching on contraception. Pat, born and raised a Catholic, wanted to know what Father Deig was telling her. She updated him, telling him, "I Can accept (the Church teach- ing) on contraception because went well, teacher and in the 1987, of Mater , EVansville, by Evansville High April 28, a reporter's )tion of eric , and to be prin- CECELIA, SHAWN, CLARE and GRACE BENDER Father sat down and explained it to me. It was beautiful and I accepted it." Six months later, the couple went on their first date. "It was- n't serious at first," she remem- bers, and they dated for two years before getting married. During their engagement, they attended a pre-Cana talk on Natural Family Planning. "We felt strongly about it, and we wanted to learn it." A few years ago, Dr. John Ger- ling, a local physician who knew how strongly she felt about Church teachings, asked her to become a Natural Family Planning practitioner. With young children at home, Shawn was unsure. "I didn't know how much time I wanted to commit, but after much prayer I said, 'God willing, it will work out.'" She attended NFP training sessions in New Mexico, learn- ing about about pre-menopausal women, breastfeeding women the Church's teaching in this area" because the majority of physicians follow their training from medical school and auto- matically prescribe IUDs and birth control pills. Many people also incorrectly connect NFP with the outdated, oftm inaccurate Rh"m Method. When the Benders talk with and women with irregular men:. strual cycles. For the past five years, Shawn and Pat have talked with pre- Cana couples. "It's been very rewarding, but very challeng- ing," Shawn said. "It's been difficult to uphold we talk with 00oupl00s;maybe three will show an interest.: "We're still trying to get the word out. It's not easy, but it's something we will continue to stay with, God willing." Traylor named principal of Mater Dei Traylor currently serves as assistant principal at Mater Dei. She will succeed Herb Neigh- bors, who has announced his retirement at theend of the cur- rent academic term. She said her immediate chal- lenge would be conducting classes next year in a building where extensive remodeling and new construction would be happening. She said the prospect of work- ing with the new governance model -- one president and two principals for the two Catholic high schools in Evans- ville  is exciting. She looks for- ward to the freedom of working MARY TRAYLOR 00ent explores meaning of pilgrimages The secretary of the Vatican migrants' and travelers' coun- cil, Archbishop Francesco Gioia, said a pilgrimage should not be viewed as a means of escape from the world, but as a journey "to the symbolic house of the Lord." "The specific element that dis- tinguishes the pilgrimage from tourism is symbolism," he added. "The Pilgrimage in the Great Jubilee" was made available first in English and in Italian. grimages had been produced in 1936. The new document, at 16 pages including footnotes, was the fruit of several years' effort by the Pontifical Council for Migrants and Travelers. The council's president, Car- dinal Giovanni Cheli, said, "It is our desire that this document supports the mission of the Holy Father and helps all pil- grims to take up his invitation" to commemorate the year 2000. more closely with faculty, staff and students. Traylor came to Mater Dei in 1994 as Administrative Assistant and Dean. In 1995, she was named assistant principal. She previously served as a teacher at Rivet High School, Vincennes, from 1987 to 1994. She taught Social Studies, Ger- man and Learning Skills at the middle and high school levels. Traylor received her Bachelor of Arts from Purdue University in 1972, and a Masters of Edu- cation from Indiana State Uni- versity in 1992. She earned her Principal Certification from Indiana State University in 1995. She is currently working toward a doctorate in school administration. and of ns of officials pre. "The Pil- Jubilee," the last to pil- Following is a feature in the Message, designed to help draw together the Pople of G in southutern Indiana. Readers are invited to submit information about people who may benefit by some extra prayers and attention. Benedictine Sister Irmingard Fritz, 88, died April 24. She was the first principal at Mater Dei High School, Evans- ville. She entered Monastery Immaculate Conception, Ferdi- nand, in 1927, and made her first vows in 1929. She was a founding member of Our Lady of Grace Monastery in Beec h Grove. She served as principal at Mater Dei from 1949 to 1955. Please send information for PEOPLE WE CARE ABOUT to Mary Ann Hughes, The Mes, P,O. Box 4169, Evans- ville, IN 47724. The e-mail address ts meua8 e@evans" ville.neL Subject: PFa3PLE WE CARE ABOUT. The deadline for copy is 9 a.m. the Friday before publi- cation. i inl ............ r ......