The Message-- for Catholics of Southwestern Indiana
-- On The Record-
DAUGHTER
You can survive a life of abuse
Alone ... listless ... breakfast
table/Otherwise empty/Young
girWiolin (ence)/Center of her
own/Mother reads abused child
Tries to understand it/Tries to
make her proud/Shades go
down/Inside her head/Painted room/Can't
deny there's/Something wrong
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Don't call me daughter/Not fit to/Picture kept
will remind me/Don't call me daughter/Not fit
to/Picture kept/Will remind me
She holds the hand/That holds her down/She
will rise/Don't call me daughter/Not fit to
be/Don't remind me
Written by Eddie Vedder/Dave Abbruzzese/
Stone Gossard/Mike
McCready/Jeff Ament
Sung by Pearl Jam
Copyright (c) 1993 by Sony Music Enter-
tainment
This column comes to you by way of two music
store managers. They know about my writing, and
they suggested that I write a column about Pearl
Jam's new disc.
The two managers told me how Pearl Jam plays
to sold-out concert audiences
wherever their tour takes them.
The song addresses a painful
topic -- abuse within the family.
Rather than present clear expres-
sions of feelings, Pearl Jam offers
images of what happens when
abuse occurs.
The type of abuse is not described. However,
whether the abuse is emotional, sexual, physical
or some combination of the three, the effects last
long beyond the actual abuse episodes.
In between the song's images, we feel the lone-
liness, shame and emptiness that afflicts every
abused child. Perhaps it is the girl's anger that
speaks to her mother and says, "Don't call me
daughter."
Or maybe this is the painful voice of broken
self-esteem stating that she is not fit to be named
as such.
Abuse within a family breaks down trust, and
thus meaningful relationships are lost. Unfortu-
nately, many children blame themselves for their
family's unhappiness and often try valiantly to
fix the family pain.
The words that speak most clearly to me are,
"She will rise." I know personally that these
words can be true. I want every teen who grew up
in an abusive home to know that happiness later
in life can be found.
The pathway to future happiness starts with a
journey toward healing the pain that an abused)
has experienced. This search for
begin as soon as possible. Most teens do not
power to change abusing parents,
begin the process of healing themselves. :
This healing process starts by revealing
and trusted adult what has happened in your
By safe I mean someone who will allow you
wide range of emotions while listening to yo,
without judging anyone involved, r : 4;]
Most of us who have been abu'
how to hide and/or deny our pain. Some
tempted to bury our hurt under the
tion.
Whatever the type of addiction, it serves
a person from what he or she feels at
els of emotion. However, such evasion is not
to recovery. =: '
Many parishes, schools or
have support groups for individut
the pain of abuse. If unsure where to
group, ask a trusted adult.
No matter what you do or do
don't give up. God gives us many
Ask our Lord to guide you to the
will best erve your need to create a new
ing life. •
(Your comments are always
address: Charlie Martin, RR 3,
port, IN 47635.)
CTNA: What's available
CTNA
In the Footsteps of Peter
and Paul is a one-hour special
on the lives of St. Peter and St.
Paul during their time in Rome.
The program, produced by Santa
Fe Communications, will be
available on the Catholic
Telecommunications Network of
America, May 9, at 2:30 p.m.
CDT.
CTNA programs are transmit-
ted to affiliated parishes on Ku-
band satellite SBS 6, transpon-
der 13, with audio subcarrier 6.2
mHz.
For more information, contact Paul R. Leingang, diocesan
director of communications, (812) 424-5536 or (800) 637-1731.
Or call CTNA (800) 432-2862.
'.No note is out of place' in
MILWAUKEE (CNS) -- In a
review of a best-selling record-
ing of Gregorian chant, Arch-
bishop Rembert G. Weakland
of Milwaukee said that "no
note is out of p/ace."
Writing in the April 10 issue
of the Milwaukee Journal daily
album, says prelate's review
grees in music, the latter from "Why this neW•!
newspaper, Archbishop Weak-
land said that "Chant,"
recorded in the 1970s by the
Benedictine monks of Santo
Domingo de Silos, Spain, "is
sheer beauty of melody for its
own sake."
Archbishop Weakland has
bachelor's and master's de-
Religious public relations council
presents 1994 Wilbur awards
BIRMINGHAM, Ala. (CNS) to observers and users of pub- strip by Doug Marlette of the
lic and religious media."
Nieman Reports, a magazine
for journalists, received praise
for its special section on "God
in the Newsroom." A special
Wilbur award was given to the
Freedom Forum,s First
Amendment Center in
Nashville, Tenn., for its study
called "Bridging the Gap: Reli-
gion and the News Media."
Other winners of Wilbur
awards included NBC-TV's
"The John Larroquette Show,"
Time and Washingtonian mag-
azines, the San Francisco Ex-
aminer, and the syndicator of
the "Rev. Will B. Dunn" comic
Washington
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Jill Ann White
L P Administrator
Hwy. 57 So, Washington, IN
8812-2544516
ralrle Village
iving Center
-- "Schindler's List" led the list
of movies, books, newspapers,
magazines and other media
outlets honored by the Reli-
gious Public Relations Council
with its 1994 Wilbur Awards.
The awards honoring public
media for excellence in commu-
nicating religious issues, val-
ues and themes were pre-
sented during the council's
annual convention in Birming-
ham in early April.
The judges said the Oscar-
winning "Schindler's List," di-
rected by. Steven Spielberg,
"expresses religion in a way
few films these days even at-
tempt."
The book "The Culture of
Disbelieff by Stephen L. Carter
was honored for its analysis of
the separation of church and
state, which the judges called
"a topic of utmost importance
Newsday staff.
The awards are named for
the Rev. Marvin C. Wilbur,
longtime leader in religious
public'relations and volunteer
executive of the Religious Pub-
lic Relations Council for almost
three decades.
David B. Smith, council
president and director of devel-
opment and public relations at
the Adventist • Media Center in
Thousand Oaks, Calif., said
the Wilburs represented a
"thank you to peers in secular
media who tell the story of
faith with imagination, in-
tegrity and excellence."
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the Julliard School of Music in
New York. He also studied
chant at Solesmes Abbey in
France with Dom Eugene Car-
dine, whose theories influenced
Dom Francisco Lara, the chant
master at the Spanish
monastery.
"Chant" is still climbing in
the charts, rising from 12th to
sixth place in the "Hot 200"
pop album list released April
22 by Billboard magazine, a
trade publication.
It has earned platinum sta-
tus, signifying 1 million copies
sold. It has become by far
Angel Records' all-time top
seller. The classical music
label had never had a gold
record in its history.
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bishop
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