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0 The Message -- for Catholics of Southwestern Indiana By MARY ANN HUGHES Message staff writer Speaker promotes sexual abstinence for. with students in area schools, She cited the high incidents of in the seventies, abortion be- and pleasure." It Pat Socia wants teenagers to know one thing: God loves them, he has a plan for them, and they can ruin that plan with pre-marital sex. Socia is a Texas grand- mother who travels around the country and speaks with teenagers about the impor- tance of sexual abstinence be- fore marriage. She was in Evansville last week talking including Memorial High School. At Memorial, she began her talk by warning students that sexual partners "follow you all of your life and you never get over it." She said she is angry with the media for promoting the message, "Have sex, use a con- dom," because "you cannot re- duce human sexuality to a man-made product and con- doms don't protect the heart." depression and suicide in teenage girls who are not vir- gins. Socia told the students that before the advent of birth con- trol pills, five percent of babies were born to unwed mothers. Today, that figure has risen to 30 percent, and is as high as 80 percent in some areas where Socia has spoken. "When the pill came out in the sixties, our country went into sexual convulsions. Then Junior Mental Health Association Year-long focus will be on teen abstinence By MARY ANN HUGHES Message staff writer Members of the Junior Mental Health As- sociation have begun a year-long focus on sexual abstinence for teenagers, according to Helen Kremzar, adult advisor. The theme for the year is "Abstinence: Make it your style." Kremzar said she knows high school stu- dents are worried about the impact of sexu- ally-transmitted diseases and she is hoping that the work by JMHA members will show that "it's not so bad to be chaste." JMHA is composed of middle school and high school students from Catholic and pub- lic schools in the Evansville area. Throughout the year, JMHA members will be hosting a variety of speakers who will offer information about the harmful combination of teenagers and sex. Members are also writing skits, which will be pre- sented to both high school and middle school students in Evansville. Kremzar said the focus on teen abstinence occurred because she was "bombarded from parents who were asking, 'Can we do some- thing about this.'" She also listened to her husband, Dr. Max I N KORDES ENRICHMENT CENTER ERDI^ND, |NDIAA 1994 Summer Programs April: 21 29-May 1 May: 3 & 7 13-15 21 June: 10-17 24-July 1 July: 1-8 9 15-24 August: 5-6 26-28 27 Secretary's Day: Coping With Difficult People -Sharon Reeves Intermediate Centering Prayer Retreat -Kristine A. Harpenau, OSB, and team Come To The Quiet: There Is A Season -Joan Scheller, OSB Coping With Anger's Emotional And Physical Toll -Libby Weatherby-Hoard Come To The Center: Centering Prayer Day -Kristine A. Harpenau, OSB Native American Sprituality Retreat -- Guided Retreat -Victoria Fortner Holistic Directed Retreat -Kristine A. Harpenau, OSB, mui team Women Mystics: A Tradition Of Feminine Spirituality -- Guided Retreat -Johnette Putnam, OSB Introduction To Merton -Robert Daggy Advanced/Intensive Centering Prayer Retreat -Kristine A. Harpenau, OSB, Maria Taste, OSB, and team Divorce Recovery Workshop -Maureen McCoy Our Inner Child's Journey Toward Wholeness -l.2bby Weatherby-Hoard Come To The Center: Centering Prayer Day -Kristine A. Harpenau, OSB Kordes also offers Elderhostel programming. ] Kremzar, an Evansville pathologist. "He said he was seeing so many abnormal pap smears, and cancers in young women, ages 18, 19, and 20, caused by having multiple sex partners. Yet no one was talking about it." She also talked with a psychiatric nurse who said a large number of suicide attempts among teenagers are occurring from post- abortion syndrome or guilt from multiple sexual encounters. "These are normal kids, "A" students, from good families." When Kremzar presented the idea of a year-long focus on teen abstinence to the JMHA board, "the kids said yes. They said, 'We will make this cool.'" Kremzar noted that society doesn't talk about sexually-transmitted diseases, "about young girls having hysterectomies, or young girls having cervical cancer. Our bodies are not designed to have sex at that age. That's not what God meant for us. And today it's a matter of living or dying." She believes that teens are under so much stress and pressure today, and by offering them guidelines on sexuality "we are reliev- ing them. We are presenting a way, that it's not so bad to be chaste." FoI more information call: 800-880-2777, extension 2907 J I Subscribe to the Message came legal. Back in the 1950s, there weren't sexually-trans- mitted diseases like today. There was gonorrhea and syphilis and they were cured with penicillin. "Now there are 25 serious sexually-transmitted diseases. One out of every five Ameri- cans is infected with a viral sexually-transmitted disease and those are diseases that you can't get rid of." Socia told the students that one out of every three high" school seniors who are sexually active will get a serious sexu- ally-transmitted disease. What has changed between the 1950s and the 1990s? Socia notes, "We had so much pres- sure on us to 'save it.' And now there is so much pressure to 'have it.' We were pressured to save it for marriage. "You are getting the wrong message and the media is lying to you. J.R. had sex with 89 women on TV and he never got a sexually-transmitted disease. Try doing that in the real world, with 89 women, and you won't live to tell about it." She reminded the students that "your sex partners will be with you in your marriage bed, emotionally and physically, be- cause of the diseases now. And the younger you are when you start to have sex, the more partners you will have. The more diseases you will have and the more it will mess up your marriage bed." She said studies have shown that when virgins marry, they are "happier, have better sex, fewer problems, and are much more likely to stay married. The more partners you have before marriage, the more likely you are to get divorced." She said sex should repre- sent "love, trust, relationship COMPLETE INSURANCE SERVICE Auto! Home! Fire & Life! Your Personal Service Agent James L. Will Ins. Agency Inc. 1925 W. Franklin Street 425-3187 DIOCESAN DIRECTOR OF YOUTH AND YOUNG ADULT MINISTRY The Diocese of Evansville is seeking a full-time Diocesan Director of Youth and Young Adult Min- istry. Responsibilities include: diocesan liaison to pastors and pastoral life coordinators (73 parishes) on all aspects of youth and young adult ministry; advisor to parish coordinators on pro- gram design and implementation; on-going lead- ership development and in-service training. Must be a practicing Catholic, have a master's degree, a minimum of three years experience in administration and the ability to work collaboratively Send resume to: Youth and Young Adult Ministry Search Committee The Chancery p.o. Box 4169 Evansville, IN 47724-0169 Deadline: April 15, 1994 Position available: August 1, 1994 about games, she:! ing "if you now, it c you." She has been girls under gins and the committing cause when sex, she thinks she through sex. Bat highest price for their reproductive their emotional Eighty percent when their pregnant in high She encouraged to maintain until marriage, sick and tired of made fun of. right thing, you moral thing." As she has the country to teenagers about nence, she says many young pc! "broken their sexual She who came to after one of her "Tears were her face and been having sex the seventh was an alcoholi some boy to care so found mitment. I got tion and names." The student I've and I'm married. I'm sex free and good." .... 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