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The Message Monthly -- for Catholics of Southwestern Indiana
April 2
-- On The Record --
Handle conflict with cooling off time
I'M STILL ON YOUR SIDE
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Emotions run high/And the
words are strong/Heard the
screen door slam/And you were
gone/You can't win a fight/You
don't understand/I wake up
alone/And reach for your hand
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By CHARLIE MARTIN
CNS COLUMNIST
(REFRAIN)
Like a cold winter in December/We don't see
eye to eye/But I want you to remember/I'm still
on your side/When you need me girl/I'm still on
your side
As sure as the river runs to the sea/There will
have to be times/That we both disagree/Some-
times I feel like shouting/It's like a frenzy in my
heart/Basically I'm living on doubt/I'm still on
your side/When you need me girl/I'm still on
your side/I'm still on your side/I'm still on your
side
I looked up to see you standing there/Well you
just look right through me/Somebody tell me
I'm dreaming/That you don't care/Because you
turn around/And walk out that door
(REPEAT REFRAIN)
Written by Barnes, Cain and Vallance
Sung by The Heights
Copyright (c) 1992 by Capitol Records Inc.,
Spelling Television Inc.
i Be it pop music or television,
the Heights are doing well. Music
from their television show is
once more on the charts with the
release titled "I'm Still on Your
Side."
The song describes a difficult
time in a relationship. A painful
conflict has occurred, leaving the future of the
romance in doubt.
In the guy's words, "emotions run high"
and "the words are strong." We don't know
what the fight was about. The guy "heard the
screen door slam," and tells the girl, "you were
gone." Still, he wants her to know, "When you
need me girl, I'm still on your side."
As the song states, in every relationship
"there will have to be times that we both dis-
agree." It is not conflict that destroys relation-
ships. Rather, it is how we handle conflict.
When approached with fairness and respect
for each other, conflict can actually bring a cou-
ple closer. Consider these suggestions when
faced with conflicts within relationships:
1. Before anything else, cool off. Don't try to
talk through a problem while feeling the inten-
sity of anger.
Go for a walk, listen to music or do any-
thing that helps you diminish the energy within
the conflict. This step alone would help a rela-
tionship survive a difficult and angry episode.
2. Once cooled off, resolve to be fair in how
you approach the other person. Remember, this
other person is someone you love! Refuse to en-
gage in name-calling or any putting down of the
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other person.
Practicing respect toward yoursel
other individual is the second most important :ii
step in handling conflict effectively.
3. Work toward a win-win resolution of the: i
problem. By this I mean don't look just to
your own way. Likewise, don't give up your ::
point of view. Instead work toward a
mise, while of course protecting your
values and beliefs.
When couples stick to this goal their rela-
tionship always wins, even though neither may
get fully what he or she wanted.
4. If you reach an impasse in tr
a compromise, bring in a mutually trust
person. He or she might be able to see solutions :i
that your own emotions currently block.
Such a step gives a strong statement about
how much each of you cares about the love
you share.
5. Remember to stick to the problem at
hand. Reaching a fair solution is nearly ir
ble if either person brings up hurts from
Perhaps these repressed problems
to be discussed, but for now stay focused on
solving the current situation.
Pray for guidance. Ask God to guide yol
your partner in ways that bring out the best
both of you. Allow God's spirit to be a source
healing within your relationship,
supporting the love that both of you chc
