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The Message -- for Catholics of Southwestern Indiana Entertainment March 24, 1989 On the Record By CHAR.LIE MARTIN NC News Service Columnist Exploring the importance of truth in relationships Little Liar As I write this column, three current hits are about telling the truth. Dancer-turned-singer Paula I was taught never to tell a lie/To look you in Abdul debuts on the charts with "Straight Up." the eye and tell it like it is/Always thought that Breathe's new single is titled "Don't Tell Me you would be the same/Such a shame that is not the way it is/I was fooled by your innocence/And my love for you is so intense/Without your affec- tion it's only physical/If it got me through the night/You told me a pack of lies. REFRAIN: Hey, little liar I believed in you I believed in you I believed in you. A simple question makes you look away/Your hesitation gives it all away/There's self.protection in the way you move/There's a sadness in my eyes/And your words are full of lies. REPEAT REFRAIN You want to sleep with me, but hey, that's tough/Why don't you call me when you're all grown up/If there's a change in you I'll know it's true/Hey little liar/I believed in you. REPEAT REFRAIN Written by J. Jett, D. Child Sung by Joan ]ett Copyright (c) 1988 by CBS Records Inc. Lies." Also in the Top Forty is Joan JeWs "Little Liar." Of the three, I like JeWs music best, so I chose it as a way to explore the importance of truth in relationships. ,, As Jett suggests, most of us were taught never to tell a lie." Most peoplerealize that suc- cessful relationships require genuineness and honesty. To quote the song, this means being able "to look yon in the eye and tell it like it is." "Little Liar" goes beyond dishonesty to describe purposeful deception. One person be- lieved that the other loved her. However, she discovers that his expressions of commitment were only ploys to attain sexual involvement. In no way is this type of behavior to be identified as love. The deception has left her feelings hurt, angry and disgusted. Unfortunately, lies can occur in any type of relationship. For example, a deception occurs when parents tell their teens that they love them, and yet treat their adolescents shamelessly. Parents do this when they fail to give time and attention to their children's needs or treat them unfairly. Such parental behavior may not be an intentional effort to hurt teens, but it does undermine the words of love. Likewise, teens can deceive parents. At times, teens do not tell the truth about how they feel, about who they are with or where they are going. Teens may be afraid that they will not get their way ff they tell the truth. Their lies are a way to avoid another conflict with parents. Yet, this fear or avoidance does not excuse the lying. I use these two examples to go beyond what the song addresses. Lying hurts all relationships, be it family, romance or friendship. If you are acting out lies in any relationship, you need help. Reach out to a trusted adult and begin to tell the truth about how you feel or about what is going on. For anyone trying to find genuine love, there can be no lies. Your comments are welcome always. Please address them to: Charlie Martin, R.R. 3, Box 182, Roakport, Ind, 47635. Copyright (c) 1989 by NC News Service i I ii i i i II i III I I ul i i in i i uuull I I IIII i i I i PBS documentary on AIDS is thought-producing By HENRY HERX USCC Dept. of Communication NEW YORK {NC) -- Some Americans see the AIDS epidemic as a concern only to people in urban centers, primarily on the East and West coasts. This concept is little more than wishful thinking, ac- cording to "America in the Age of AIDS," a thought-provoking documentary airing Wednes- day, April 5, 8-9 p.m. on PBS (WNIN-TV 9). , Acquired inmune deficiency syndrome is now spreading across the country and by 1991 experts say 80 percent of AIDS cases will be found in the mid- sized towns of the American heartland. To demonstrate what will mean to hundreds of such communities over the next few years, the program focuses on Fort Wayne, Ind., and how it became aware of its own AIDS problem and found ways to cope with it. Narrated by journalist Linda Ellerbee, the program offers some very human vignettes of AIDS victims and their families. It shows how their medical and personal problems were compounded when .they saw the fears of many in the community and the antagonism of some who, in one case, even resorted to arson. One major stride made by the town was organizing an AIDS task force to make people knowledgeable about the disease and to give support to its victims. The task force even succeeded in getting local den- tists to treat AIDS patients in- stead of referring them to the Nun-artist will be featured on Easter edition of CBS program 'Sunday Morning' "She's just a delightful per- son and she has a significant amount of artwork," the com- munications director told the Catholic Herald, newspaper of the Archdiocese of Milwaukee. "She is a deeply spiritual woman who continues to work at her age. She just seemed like she would be a good story." Arrangements were made by CBS to have a crew consisting of Mary Lou Teel, a, producer from New York, and two Chicago cameramen film the story. "My senior producer got the letter {about Sister Steffens- meier} and thought she looked like a wonderful person," Ms. Teel said. "Her artwork is beautiful, and he decided it would make a nice piece. Sister is really special; she was just terrific." When she heard she would be featured, said Sister Steffens- meier, a nun for 70 years. "I was very surprised and a little shocked. It was all new to me." "I'm not used to being in the limelight," the nun added. "I'm satisfied just staying in my room and doing my work." By MARY ANGELA LAYMAN NC News Service MILWAUKEE (NC) -- As an artist, Sister Helena Steffens- meier usually expresses herself through her work, or, as she says, speaks the language of art. But recently, when a CBS television crew arrived in Milwaukee to film a story about here the 88-year-old School Sister of St. Francis learned the langua]e of the mass medium of TV. Sister Steffens-meier is highlighted in a segment of the CBS program, "Sunday Morn- ing," scheduled to be aired on Easter, March 26. Spending nearly seven hours a day in her fourth-floor studio at St. Joseph Convent in Milwaukee, Sister Steffens- meier fashions works of art in wood, paint and woolen yarns on silk. The CBS program, featuring broadcaster Charles Kuralt, learned of Sister Steffens-meier in a letter from Eleanor Guilbert, the religious com- munity's communications director. Ms. Teel arrived in Milwaukee on a Monday and explored the convent and studio to get ideas for the story. The camera crew arrived the next day, when shooting began at 9:30 a.m. For about 90 minutes, the cameras zeroed in on Sister Steffens-meier stitching in her studio, then followed her dur- ing her daily routine. When it was time for an adoration hour in the chapel, the crew went along, with the film rolling. After a break for lunch, Ms. Teel interviewed Sister Steffens-meier. That day's production work took about eight hours and Sister Steffens-meier thought the entire project then was finished. But the camera crew met her in the chapel the next day, Wednesday, to film her as she attended 7 a.m. Mass. Next, the nun's artworks, located in different parts of the convent, were taped and then the cameras were taken to Alverno College, where Sister Steffens- meier is a professor emeritus and artist-in-residence. town clinic. The program also takes an ob- jective look at Fort Wayne's homosexual circle and visits a gay bar. It similarly looks brief- ly at the local drug scene and ef- forts made to stem drug abuse, especially the sharing of needles by intravenous drug users. The program notes that teen- agers are especially at risk because many of them experi- ment with sex and drugs, both of which contribute to the spread of AIDS. Because the state of Indiana requires an AIDS education program in every school, the program visits classrooms and interviews students and teachers. State law requires that abstinence be taught, so one teacher said she tells her class that it is best to abstain from sex but urges use of contraceptive devices for students who decide to be sexually active. Another teacher challenges this approach and says it gives students a double message about sex. The program's final word on the subject comes from a churchgoer who says that one can "look at certain aspects of AIDS and teens as moral" issues, but the bottom line is that this basically is a life and death concern. Produced by Bobbie Baker for KCTS-Seattle, the program is part of an ongoing public televi- sion effort to inform the public about the impact of AIDS on the community, the workplace and our children. That this is necessary is the point of Linda Ellerbee's final comment that all Americans within the next decade will know someone who has AIDS. Though the religious com- munity is not directly represented in the program, its reponse is vital because these are issues not only of compas- sion but also of morality. The program offers a place to start learning about AIDS and the immediacy of the problem. However, parents should be prudent about who in the fami- ly watches it. i I I! Your Full Service Funeral Home Miller:& Miller 424'92741 Illlllllltlll iii rlll 11 iiiii CAMPUS MINISTRY Director of campus ministry, University of Evansville, a Methodist affiliated university with 3,500 students. Newman Center is located adja- cent to campus. Priest, religious, layperson to direct ministry cooperatively with Methodist chaplain, full time 10 or 11 months, begin- ning August 1. Qualifications perferred: masters degree in theology or religious studies; experience in campus ministry team setting. This per- son would work closely with Diocesan Director of Campus Ministry and peers in nearby campus ministries. Adjunct teachings at the university may be possibility. Send resume and three letters of recommendation by April 28 to: Diocesan Director, Office of Campus Ministry, U.$.I., Evansville, IN 47712. (812) 464.1810.