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8 The Message -- for Catholics of Southwestern Indiana On the Record FRIENDS Don't underrate friendship By CHARLIE MARTIN CNS COLUMNIST You sa you want to be friends/That's a newly sharp- ened blade/That's a dagger to the heart/Of the promises we made/That's a chapter full of pain/A season full of rain/A dark and stormy night/Spent all alone REFRAIN Friends/Get scattered by the wind/Tossed upon the waves/Lost for years on end/Friends/Slowly drift apart/They give away their hearts/Maybe call you/Now and then/But you wanna be/Just friends You say you love me very much/And you'll always hold me dear/Those are the sweetest words/I never wanted to hear/What's a love without desire/A flame without fire/Can't warm me late at night/When I need you most (REPEAT REFRAIN) Friends/Slowly drift apart]They give away their hearts/Maybe call you/Now and then Darling can't you see/This is killing me/We could never be/Just friends i Sung by John Michael Mont- gomery Copyright 7/8 1995 by That's A Smash Publishing Inc. (BMI) Copyright 7/8 1996 by Atlantic Recording Corp. Are you surprised? Charlie Martin reviewing a country song? True, I usually stay with the pop/rock charts. However, John Michael Montgomery's "Friends" has also crossed over to this chart. Maybe the proverb is wrong: You can teach an old dog new tricks! I also liked the song's topic, perhaps best summed up in this question: What happens when someone you're dating decides that he or she just wants to be friends? For the guy in the song, the answer is painful. Hearing his dating partner say that she wants to be "just friends" is "a dagger to my heart." Even though she tells him that she loves him "very much" and will always hold him "dear," his response is some- thing akin to instant depression. In the song's words, "those are the sweetest words I never wanted to hear!" Eventually, he tells her: "Darling can't you see, this is killing me we could never be just friends." It's easy to understand his reaction. When you are interested in romance, friendship seems much less exciting. He.aring such a statement creates an emotional letdown, particularly if you and the other Written by Jerry Holland person already have been dating. If you ever face a similar situation, other what he or she means by "frie the song believes that "friends Further, "they give away their hearts, you now and then." This may be his it doesn't resemble what Icc Genuine friendship is a in the song intends what just seeking a softer way to break she is making new and important For example, friends They celebrate when success occurs there when loss or disappointment hurtS. times, friends just hang ests. Friends find the time to get when dating others. They are shared caring, describe( Indeed, the circumstances are difficult and challenging. At may do better not to attempt such those who can do so might treasured no matter how each pers Enduring friendship is one of filled gifts. Don't quickly dismiss such is openly offered. Your comments are always welcc address: Charlie Martin, RR 3, Box IN 47635.) At the movies: Current capsule THE CATHOLIC COMMUNICATION CAMPAIGN NEW YORK (CNS}- The fol- lowing are capsule reviews of movies recently reviewed by the U.S. Catholic Conference (USCC} Office for Film and Broadcasting. Ratings are also given for the Motion Picture Association of America (MPAA). "City of Industry" (Orion) Gritty crime story in which four armed men pull off a big jewel heist, then a murderous double-cross by one of them (Stephen Dorff) cause another (Harvey Keitel) to go gunning for him. Director John Irvin's violent tale of betrayal and revenge is a dark study of hard- ened criminals, most of whom pay for their greed with their lives. A morally ambiguous end- ing, intermittent nasty violence, fleeting nudity and much rough language. The USCC classifica- tion is A-IV -- adults, with reservations. The MPAA rating is R w restricted. "Good Luck" (East West) Well-intended but unconvinc- ing tale of a blind ex-athlete (Vincent D'Onofrio) and a para- plegic dental technician (Grego- ry Hines) working together to compete in a whitewater rafting race. Directed by Richard LaBrie, the movie succeeds in a positive portrayal of the dis- abled, though the story's devel- opment is predictable and the situations are laced with off- putting dark humor and lan- guage. Sexual situations, toilet humor, profanity and rough lan- guage. The USCC classification is A- III -- adults. The MPAA rating is R -- restricted. "Gray's Anatomy" (Northern Arts) Screen version of Spaulding Grays one-man stage play chron- icling how he sought to avoid a delicate eye operation by trying a series of alternative therapies, including a Native American sweating ceremony and the dubi- ous intervention Of a Filipino psy- chic surgeon. Director Steven Soderburgh relies on an array of changing backgrounds for visual interest as Gray deftly blends neurotic narcissism with self-dep- recating humor in telling a story that is wry, dry and usually engaging. Some sexual references and an anecdote about substance abuse. The USCC classification is A-III -- adults. Not rated by the Motion Picture Association of America. "Jungle 2 Jungle" (Disney) A workaholic Wall Street trader (Tim Allen) learns to bond with his visiting, newly discovered 13-year-old son (Sam Huntington) who was raised by his estranged wife in a Venezue- lan rainforest. Director John Pasquin's clash-of-cultures com- edy limps fitfully along, depend- ing heavily on Allen's appeal as a TV sitcom star. Implied pre- marital relationship, comic vio- lence and some coarse humor. The USCC classification is A-III adults. The MPAA rating is Book calls for deeper experience of Eucharist Praying the Eucharist. Reflections on the Eucharistic Experience of God. By Charles Miller. Morehouse Publishing, Harrisburg, PA, 1996. Soft'back, 116 pages, $8.95 Book Review BY MICHAEL H. EPPLER Director of Youth and Young Adult Ministry While the number of pages in this book may be few, the content is substantial. Charles Miller, an Anglican priest, calls the reader to "begin the journey" of praying the Eucharist through collective prayer, proclamation, appropria- tion, exultation, intercession, penitence, thanksgiving, and home-coming." The book calls for deeper appreciation and rela- tionship to the Eucharistic litur- gY. I liked the way Miller alls for connection between the Eucharis- tic liturgy and the spirituality of the people involved in the prayer. Miller's preface states that he would like to "discover a viable Eucharistic spirituality; to refash- ion our understanding and our expectations of what praying at the Eucharist means" (Preface, ix). The sum of this book is devot- ed to this task. For me the challenge did not lie in the differences in our commu- nions. I respect his Anglican tra- ditions, and Miller points out in several places that this need for Eucharist spirituality transcends denominations. He quotes Louis Bouyer, a Roman Catholic litur- gist and theologian  and a con- temporary of Plus XI within his chapter on "Prayer -- shape of the liturgy." The challenge of this book is that it is written by an academic who has taught and served the Oxford, England community. The chapters are sermons and lec- tures that Miller has given over the last several years. The book is academic and well-researched. It contains a selected biblical index, and extensive index, notes on each chapter, and prayer poems that invite the reader into a deep- er relationship with Jesus within the context of the Eucharist. I recommend this book to those seeking reference material and a solid academic basis for under- standing their liturgy. For those hungry for a passionate treat- ment of Eucharistic thanksgiving and sacrament, I would first read Bernard Cooke's Sacrament and Sacramentality, and then read Miller's text. About the author:. y Charles Miller was born and educated in the United States. He has served several parishes in Oxford, England. He is cur- rently Professor of Theology at Nashotah House, Wisconsin. PG  P gested. :,  "Love African.Amerl Long an sex on realizing feet for tor the real predictable' ' encounters recurring l cl, The Built to Time .... FactOry a d HwY, 23J (82) Wade Funt:ra= Robert J. Wade RUXER FORD - LINCOLN - MERCURY ii COMPLETE INSURANCE SERVICE Auto! Home! Fire & Life! Your Personal Service Agent James L. Will Ins. Agency Inc.- 1925 W. Franklin Street 425-3187 ' i i