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March 13, 199
On the Record
By CHARLIE
MARTIN
Catholic News
Service Columnist
CHANGE
(REFRAIN): If I could chan :e the way that I live
my life today/l wouldn't change a sin-
fie thin'Cause ff I change my world
into another place/l wouldn't see your
smiling face
Honey don't you worry/There is nothing to worry
for/Because ifI didn't love you/I wouldn't be here
now/And ifI didn't want you/l would have turned
around by now/You got to believe me/Believe that I
love you so/Because if I didn't love you/I would
have turned around/And ifI didn't want you/Then
I would want you out/This love, this love has fi!led
me up/My love I'll never give you up/Because 111
always Want your love
{REPEAT REFRAIN}
Believing is the answer/The answer to all your
fears/When I first said I love you/I went in for the
kill/And when I say that I love you/l mean that I
always will
(REPEAT REFRAIN TWICE}
Written by Stansfield, Devaney and Morris
Be open to
changes in your life
Sung by Lisa Stansfleld
Distributed by Arista Records Inc.
Copyright (c) 1991, Eurodisc Ltd.
How much do you like your life? Is there
anything about it that you would change?
I suspect that most of us would find some-
thing to change, Some of us might want to
change quite a lot. Others might find that life is
going quite well, yet would want to fine-tune cer-
tain aspects of it.
However, this is not so for the woman in
Lisa Stansfield's new hit "Change." She says that
she "wouldn't change a single thing." Apparently
this decision is based on a fear that if she
changes anything, it will negatively affect her ro-
mance. She does not realize that her attitude
likely will become a problem because change is
inevitable in life.
The very effort to keep everything the same
creates stress. Rather than suppress our growth,
we should trust ourselves and God that changes
will help us become better persons.
This kind of trust does not mean we should
abandon changes to fate or to life's uncertainties.
Once we accept change we can allow our feel-
ings, interests and dreams to grow,
plore more of life and develop our
Consider the relationship
song, Most of the lyrics describe the girl'.'
ruination to stay in the relationship. But
ing relationships possess this kind of
There are unknowns and blind spots which
make young love a risk.
Some of our teen commitments
ever, but others will not. Often, we need to
adjustments, including ending a relationship
I encourage teens to date with such o
ness and awareness, Value and
person you love, But give a relationship time
evolve and change. Be careful with all
ments that include "forever" or
Finally. don't imagine that the
changes -- to make decisions that lead
is a sign of failure on your part. Makin
sions to become the person you want to be can
be a sign of strength w even a sign that
active in your life.
(Your comments are always welcome.
Please address them to: Charlie Martin, R.tL 5,
Box 182, Rockport, IN 47635).
'Once Upon A Midlife' offers 20
tales from around the world
Once Upon a Midlife by
Dr. Allan B. Chinen. 7brcher
(LosAngeles, 1992). 238 pp.,
$18.95. Reviewed by Father
James Gilhooley, Catholic
News Service
As Calvin Trillin, the liter-
ary critic, might wryly ob-
serve, a 62-year-old should
not be reviewing "Once Upon
a Midlife," a book subtitled:
"Classic Stories and Mythic
Tales to Illuminate the Mid-
dle Years." The middle years
for me are history. And, since
I am writing this review, the
presumption must be that
mine were sufficiently illumi-
nated. But let us begin!
Dr. Allan B. Chinen has
collected 20 middle tales
from countries such as Japan,
China, Egypt, Russia, India
and Polynesia. Middle tales,
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the author assures us, are to
be distinguished from youth
tales in which the principals
live happily ever alter. They
are also different from elder
tales. It is probably the latter I
should be reading and pon-
dering. Whether the elders
live happily ever after re-
mains to be seen.
Each chapter begins with a
short middle tale. The psy-
chiatrist-author then offers
his own interpretations and
insights.
I found myself enthusiasti-
cally nodding in agreement
with many of his conclu-
sions, scratching my head
about a few, and strenuously
disagreeing with some.
However, one point I do
guarantee. The reader will be
charmed by the 20 middle
tales. My own favorite bears
the engrossing title. "The
Wife Who Became King." For
Chinen's pains in collecting
these tales I certainly tam
grateful. And so will be story-
tellers everywhere.
But would these tales alone
impel me to purchase this
volume for $18.95 plus tax? I
think not.
However, make a point of
examining it at your friendly
neighborhood public library.
Father Gilhooley is a priest
of the Archdiocese of New
York who has written for nu-
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journals
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