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27, 1998 The Message -- for Catholics of Southwestern Indiana 1 3 il  , JIM and ANN CAVERA furniture was nothing more than a my parents had selected. The was when my brothers and spot from which to view the new After our marriage furniture as we gradually accumulated a of chil- over. Now that we have of our lives, we have taken and, more specifi- to celebrate anniversary by gifting ourselves chairs that we might enjoy for the For years we had been sitting on old Chairs wood framed furniture with cushions. It was right out of the sixties and very practical. What it lacked was comfort. No matter how many throw pillows we used, we still ended up with aching backs. Years ago we did- n't notice the discomfort so much or, perhaps, it just didn't matter since we were so over-committed we did- n't have time to sit very long in one place. I can easily bring up memories from childhood of my father's overstuffed chair and foot stool. His spe- cial chair has passed the test of time and comfort and it remains the center piece of the family room. Dad always falls asleep soon after he settles down in his chair, much to my delight and now the delight of his grandchildren. It has long been a source of gentle teas- ing. When I go home for a visit I like to sneak in his chair for a few minutes of quiet time and reminiscing. Probably the oldest chair remaining in our family belonged to Aunt Delia and it occupies a spot'in the gathering room at my inlaws home. It has an unusual shape to it with a very short back and an especially long seat. Its original upholstery reflects the style of the thirties and, in spite of its worn appearance, it is surprisingly comfortable. A gentle rocking motion quickly induces memories of fiesty Aunt Delia's fruit cakes and the feud she had with a neighbor over a certain pecan tree. We wanted chairs like Dad's or Aunt Delia's that would someday be counted as memory-filled heirlooms. After much time and numerous trial sittings, we decided on a matched set of absolutely wonderful recliners. Now there are days when we actually look forward to getting home and into our chairs. They have a quality that allows us to relax and let go of our concerns. They have gradually become a place to refo- cus our thoughts, to share our ideas and our dreams -- and even to pray. We had never thought that furni- ture could so impact our lives. Ann observed that when our chairs are in their reclining position, they resemble the palm of a hand. This brought to mind that beautiful song "On Eagles Wings" with its promise of total peace and comfort in the Lord's hands. In the second half a blessing can come in the shape of a good chair. -- By Jim Cavera Jim and Ann Cavera live and work in Evansville. Their column is a regular feature of the Message. 1 may be anger at who don't and lesbian chil- tOWard those be of change their )t, as parents their chil- Welfare and "Parents are have a hard life.' There is also the fear of AIDS." Father Nugent reminded those attending the seminar that the bishops' statement "tells the par- ents to listen to their feelings, because they are the clues to what you are called to do." As families struggle through these emotions, it's important that they "accept their children. Don't break off contact. Don't reject your children. Your chil- dren may need you now more than ever." Box 68 Montgomery, Indiana 47558 Phone: 486-3285 "A Family Serving Families" I]RAI)LEY'S COLONIAL CHAPEL, INC. 1005 E. Main Street BOonville, Indiana 47601 812-897-1459 Ann M. Bradley-Holland Flmeral Director Funeral News number" 897-6805 8ts. Joan of Arc and Patrick School , Kokotno, IN Elementary School Principal School is know for a strong commitment to faith, a state and a dedicated staff. We have active support Our two facility campus serves two parishes and through grade 7 program. 3 and knowledgeable in curriculum & instruction, programs and staff. parish. School Admirlicense. skiUs,  d e=ishinO rapport with staff, ii ! resume, transcripts, and references by March 1, Steven Kuhlman Joan of Arc & Patrick School 1230 N. Armstrong Street Kokomo, IN 46901 It is also important for fami- lies to seek "appropriate help" both for the children and for the parents. The bishops' state- ments suggests looking for a therapist "who has an apprecia- tion of religious values and who understands the complex nature of sexuality." Parents are advised to "accept the reality that help may not change your child's sexual ori- entation." In the section titled "Accept- ing God's Plan and the Church's Ministry," the U.S. bishops write, "Every person has an inherent dignity because he or she is created in God's image." They add, "Like all gifts from God, the power and freedom of sexuality can be channeled toward good or evil." The Church teaches that "homogenital behavior is objec- tively immoral," but the bishops' statement makes a distinction between this behavior and a homosexual orientation, which is not immoral in itself. "It's important not to confuse the per- son with the orientation or Memorial Hospital and Health Care Center now offers Natural Family Planning, a program that uses a couple's knowlege of their own fertility to achieve or avoid pregnancy. Taught by a highly trained specialist in the Creighton Model techniques of natural family planning, the program is based on the guidelines of the Pope Paul VI Institute for the Study of Human Reproduction and is acceptable within the moral teachings of the Catholic Church. An introductory session is followed by a series of appointments scheduled at the couple's convenience. For more information, please call: Community Relations 482-0636 or (800) 852-7279, ext. 636 And Health Care Center 800V/gdt Street A lui, lndl 81Z/48Z.ZN5 behavior," Father Nugent said. The pastoral recommenda- tions include the advice that parents "not blame themselves for homosexual orientations in their children." And accepting their children's sexual orienta- tion does not mean that they have to approve or accept all of their children's behaviors. Parents should continue to encourage Chfldm tO' ' : remain united with the Church. The pastoral also recom- mends that church ministers "seek out those in the margins," Father Nugent said. The conclusion of the bishops" statementoffers a word to "our homosexual brothers and sis- ters." They are asked to "not walk away from your families, from the Christian community, from all those who love you" even though "you may feel dis- couraged, hurt or angry." They are reminded that "in you God's love is revealed. You are always our children." Father Nugent concluded his remarks by noting, "how we use this letter is up to us." [ [i ii MUENSTERMAN'S UNITED SOUTitWEST BANK FIR ESTONE ---= SERVICE, INC. 1400 w. Franklin Evansville, IN 4245000 i i i i ii i Count on us for professional medical care, any time of the day or night Atovh00 llZ Storalte Evansville, Indiana WASHINGTON-SHOALS-LOOGOOTEE 812-421 "7750 ii , trt IL . 41,4.,lml , , , ,, i i] i . 1 i Sheller minlke "