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February 15, 1991 The Message -- for Catholics of Southwestern Indiana 3 Father, son coping while mom stationed in Gulf Washingtot Auto Trim 27 Years Service SHAWN AND CATHERINE KAUS AUTO TOPS = SEAT COVERS = BOAT COVERS " STEREO SALES & INSTALLATIONS 254-3943 hWY 50 EAST, BEHIND UPS CENTER EUGENE WELP, OWNER IIIIIII I Corpus Christi first grader Shawn Kaus is learning to live with affects of war By MARY ANN HUGHES Message Staff Writer James Jett & Associates, Inc. life -- health - home * IRA retirement planning 4 7 3--4 O0 5 514 S. Green River Rd. Evansville t IN 47715 If you asked Shown Kaus what war means to him, he would tell you it means his mama is far away and she can't help him with his reading or tuck him into bed at night. He would tell you there are words he doesn't like to hear. Words like "death" and "die" and "have to." Shown is a first grader at Cor- pus Christi School in Evansville. Until November, his life was pretty normal. Then the Saturday before Thanksgiv- ing, his mother's Army Reserve unit was activated and in January she left for the Persian Gulf area. Shawn's mother, Catherine, is a second lieutenant and a 14-year veteran of the Army Reserves. Her unit was ac- tivated on a Saturday; on Sun- day, families attended orienta- tion meetings and on Tuesday "she shipped out," said Doug Kaus, Shawn's dad. That Tuesday, when it was time to say good-byes at the Army Reserve Center "Shown grabbed her leg and he I Neff, In. Several To Choose From NO DOWNPAYMF.,NT (With approved credit) 1990 Bumk Skylarks '8,770 S1890%.r mo. wouldn't let go," his father remembers. "I had to remove his hands." That evening, when the father and son sat together to watch the local news, Shown spotted his mother on televi- sion. She was in charge of the convoy to Indianapolis. "He broke dawn bawling," Doug said. "I stopped the TV and said, 'we are not ready.'" Ten days later, Shown and his dad traveled to Fort Ben- jamin Harrison in Indianapolis to see Cathy. "He needed that 10 days to adjust to her not being here." Doug says he has tried to ex- plain the Persian Gulf war and Cathy's part in the war in very simple terms to Shown. "I told him people were forced to leave their homes and we are there to help them get back into their homes. "Shown had been asking, 'why did she have to go over there.' When I put it in those terms, I think he finally grasped what it was all about." The father and son have settled into a makeshift routine now -- one that doesn't include morn. "Saturdays are very busy," Doug says, explaining that he and his wife shared household chores before she left. "But I'm doing all of it now. The hardest thing is that there never seems to be enough time." Doug says one of the most difficult responsibilities for him now is helping Shown with his reading homework. "She always did the reading with him because she was more pa- tient. I'm learning to give him more time to sound the words .out. And I'm trying to learn to be more patient. "Before I could always say 'go to your mother.' But there's nobody to go to anymore. I'm it. Sa I'm trying to change and become more patient." Since Cathy has been gone, there have been some rough moments for the two of them, Doug said. Phone calls from the Gulf are tough and when they get too emotional, Doug says he changes the subject. "Sometimes, I change the sub- ject a lot," he admits. "We can't let every call affect us. We don't want to be crying far 20 minutes. There are things you want to say." Shown is quick to mirror his dad's emotions, Doug said, remembering a time when he was reading a letter from his wife. "There were tears in my eyes. Shown came into the room and he started to cry too." Certain words affect Shown. Words like "death" and "die" and "have to," Doug said. "His babysitter told him she 'had to' do something. He said, 'Don't say have to. Mama said she had to.'" Doug said he and Shown don't watch as much television news as they used to. "TV af- fects us too much, especially after that girl got captured." Doug and Shown speak with pride about Cathy. Doug talks about her honors: she was named the top cadet in the state of Indiana in 1988. He says he's proud she's "over there, proud she's standing up for our country." She's always on their minds. And every night, when Shown is tucked into bed, his father gets on his knees and together they pray "for mama and all the other soldiers and people all over the world." ' ?': :SIN 8:ea:: ?':   "JillAnnWhite "711 Administrator i ! E'00Zi .., ,, w.,,o,ton., Monuments, Inc { --l't" s12-25516 DALE. 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