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1998 The Message -- for Catholics of Southwestern Indiana 13 JIM and ANN CAVERA learning in this second half !how to relate to our children now that have lives of their own. When they advice. Somewhere between and somewhere I were no ,, .... young adults. When they came "t that we sometimes felt a little awk- what could we offer? strong and from time to Small meaningful ways, they reach out } still love us and they too we shared long ago when are now faced with the problem Gifts of wanting the good times to continue on a different, adult level. After much thought we have come up with five free gifts we would like to offer our grown children on this Valentine's Day. Our first gift is unconditional love. The time for "constructive criticism" has passed. The time when we focused on rules is over. We have become interested observers. Sometimes we find ourselves wincing inwardly at the decisions they make or holding our breath the same way we did when they took their first steps, hurting with them when, they stumble and cheer- ing with them when they reach their goals. We love them regardless of their choices or mistakes and regard- less of whether they call us or not. They live not accord- ing to our standards now, but according to their own hopes and dreams. Our second gift is prayer. In our daily, private dia- logue with our Lord, we spread our prayers and uncon- ditional love beneath them, like an invisible net, sup- porting them and nourishing them in a way that provides strength no matter where they are or what they are doing. Our third gift is freedom. With prayer and love we try to keep our mouths closed when it comes to criti- cism or advice. If they wanted either, they would ask for it. Not giving either allows them freedom from guilt which would only drive them away. Fourth, we try to provide them with interesting role models. They are travelling the same roads we trav- elled. We are only a few paces ahead. We would like to offer them a glimpse of aging as a rich, exciting oppor- tunity to do more and become more. We want always to become people they might hope to be. Our final gift is time on their terms as well as ours. We will understand if they need to be somewhere else, or do other things, even when we wish it otherwise. We hope to be so joyful in their presence that we can contin- ue to create good times and good memories together. These are our Valentine gifts for them. Come to think of it, our Heavenly Father does the same for us, always supporting us with love. It is not so surprising since he is also a parent with children who are following in his steps. By Jim and Ann Cavera Jim mKl Ann Catera live and work in Evansville. T/air cohmm is a regular feature oftu: MesTge. zndividuals the Church Profile: Father James Sauer the and of the nsville. ER 8erra Club SaUer always a their hill1 corn- and they prayer life. He  a child, during made them ! to pray the t 3od parents' and nuns home also life S now who has Rosary 1996. He has ore, and having helps His back- the Latin and four Innsbruck, that at ,With men COUntries throughout the world, gave him a much broader understanding of Church. Father Sauer has been active in diocesan programs, having been in charge of the RCIA pro- gram for five years. He states that the RCIA program is a new way "to be Church" and that it is an opportunity to build the Church for the future. "We are called to be a Church of hos- pitality, a Church that welcomes people, a Church that shares faith together. Our faith is strength- ened by people talking about the Lord and what He's doing. The RCIA pro- gram gives the people building blocks upon which they can build their lives in the . Church. The building blocks are prayer and worship, scripture, sharing faith, community life and service. This is a program for the rest of their lives." Another diocesan program that. Father Sauer is active in is "Ministry to Priests"  orga- nizing retreats, prayer days and convocations for the priests who serve the Diocese of Evansville. He enjoys helping-priests to grow and minister better. "Father Jim" was an assistant at St. Theresa Church, Evansville, when Father Ted Tempel was pastor. He recalls the 10 years he spent there--six years as a full time assistant and four years of living there, as a special learning experience. He said that Father Tempel let him and the two other members of the pastoral team discover and develop the gifts they had. Those were the years that he discovered a love of the R "MERCURY JASPER 482-1200 I Father James Saner, center, pauses for a photo James Koressel, left, and Father William Traylor, while traveling in Belgium with friends, Father right. Liturgy and "Teddy" let him develop it. "That's a marvelous gift when a priest helps another priest discover his gifts," com- mented Father Sauer. Father Sauer believes that the beautiful thing about ministry today is that he does not have to do the work alone. There is a great team at Holy Rosary and a sense of ministering together using everyone's gifts. It means that he does not have to do the work alone nor does he feel that he is called to do the work alone. Baptism calls us all to ministry, he said. The Pastoral Council is using the discernment method of decision-making which allows him to have the sense that he is never alone in a decision that has to be made. "The Lord wanted us to be a community of faith and to share the gifts we have", he said. " Some forms of min- istry might be more difficult if I were here by myself but I can rely on Father Brian Holtz and Msgr. Bilskie for a tremendous supportive and sharing ministD: That's one of the negative things of the shortage of priests." He quoted St. Catherine of Sienna as saying that "God made us imperfect so that we can rely on the talents and charity of others." He has a real sense of letting God lead his life. He has had sev- eral incidents when he was say- ing I don't want to do this, etc. and then God has led him to do that very thing and he has found that was the place where he belonged The strongest one was when Bishop Gettelflnger asked him to go to Holy RosaD: The first thing he said to the Bishop was, "Why didn't you ask me a couple of days ago? I just emp- tied my water bed and refilled it." He was then Pastor of St. Clement Church, Boonville, In working with the Pastoral Council the next day he thought that he belonged at St. Clement. After conferring with a friend, he left and driving along was think- ing  "I want to do this at St. Clement" and had a sense of someone saying, "But that may not be what I want you to do." He says he's never had such a direct sense of knowing what Gc wm'Lted him to do. He knew that the Bishop and the Personnel Board wanted him to go to Holy Rosary and since he had been telling the parish coun- cil that we have to listen to the Wisdom of the Church and everybod); he felt that he had to listen to the invitation that had come to him. Again he is very happy that he did what God wanted him to do and is very grateful that he heard the call. While at St. Clement in Boonville, Father Sauer was instrumental in starting a Junior Mental Health Association in Warrick County which is still active, "To have good mental health, you need good self esteem and kids struggle with this." He saw this as a necessary effort for his community. He has been made an honorary mem- ber of the Junior Mental Health Association in Indiana. He feels that he could go to any part of this Diocese and serve and be at home because "people are good people." After being ordained 20 years Father Sauer says there are other things he could do, but he can't imag- ine being anything but a Catholic pi-iest, just like the young ]immy Sauer wanted.